Hi Shannon,
A warm Aussie welcome to Susan's. There certainly is no shortage of people like you here, so consider yourself among friends. What Devlyn has said is quite true, with respects to the name you wish to be known by. I know, anyone who calls me by my alter ego male name, simply is ignored.
I'm pleased you have chosen to stop off here. By virtue of the journey you have embarked on, automatically grants you non judgmental acceptance here.
A good way to dispel fears is to bring them out of the recesses of your mind and put them in the light for others to help you with.
As much as I'd love to help you in detail on transitioning on 'T', I feel that there are others here more qualified in that area. I can certainly give you my experiences on 'E', however I feel that would be of little use to you.
Thank you for sharing a part of your life and feelings with us. I hope to hear more of you in time to come, in the meantime, be safe, well and happy.
Lotsa huggs
Catherine