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[Shantel]

Well in the Korean culture, one must know who's older to address someone properly. That's why sometimes they do ask for your age to be able to address someone. It is by no means a disrespectful thing, it is the other way around.

I understand, my young Korean friend here is very respectful to me I'll be 71 in August. Caucasian kids are not as respectful.

[apriljo]

So I was at a trans support group meeting and about 2/3 of the way through it I notice one of the new people to the group staring at me. They continue to stare for the rest of the meeting. When the meeting wraps up, they come over to me and say "for most of the meeting I thought you were a _real_ woman. I kept wondering why you were here". I just said back "Thanks, but I _am_ a real woman!"  Someone needs to learn the term cis.

[barbie]

That's a pass for sure if I know Asian women!

Well in the Korean culture, one must know who's older to address someone properly. That's why sometimes they do ask for your age to be able to address someone. It is by no means a disrespectful thing, it is the other way around.

Thanks, Shan and jfong.

Nowadays the term 'eonni' is used broadly for denoting both young and aged women. About 20 years ago, ajumma was used for addressing married women. Now ajumma specifically denotes aged women, and calling any young or even middle-aged woman  ajumma can cause offense: http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Ajumma

Because of this reason, people began to use 'eonni' although she is not actually your relative. Even men call a woman as eonni. Eonni can comprise both married and unmarried women, and it is more friendly. Even in restaurant, I call any female worker 'eonni' instead of ajumma.

Certainly, eonni should have a slim body figure, and are far more fashion-sensible than ajumma, regardless of age.

barbie~~

[Hayley]

Yesterday, handing information on what's going on with the Fairness for all Marylanders Act. Also trying to get people away from this booth of opponents (anti-trans people). Eventually I had a few of them come ask me what I was doing. They all were nice and some gave me compliments. One of the older volunteers asked me how I would feel about a guy walking into the rest room if I was in there. My first thought was "well it's been happening for years". I told him that it isn't a fear of mine and that I'm not worried. That made those 2 and a half hours of baking in the sun, passing out flyers and talking to strangers amazing.

[barbie]

예쁜 언니

Yes. A perfect Korean sentence. Help of any internet translator?

barbie~~

[barbie]

So I was at a trans support group meeting and about 2/3 of the way through it I notice one of the new people to the group staring at me. They continue to stare for the rest of the meeting. When the meeting wraps up, they come over to me and say "for most of the meeting I thought you were a _real_ woman. I kept wondering why you were here". I just said back "Thanks, but I _am_ a real woman!"  Someone needs to learn the term cis.

Yes. You did a good job!

That reminds me of the catch-phrase used for advertising an m2f transsexual (Ha Ri Su) in cosmetic market.
It's difficult to translate, but like "Prettier than women.... is she!".

barbie~~

[jfong]

Yes. A perfect Korean sentence. Help of any internet translator?

barbie~~

Busted lol... I know ippo/yippo means pretty but wasn't sure about 한글 spelling.

[Shantel]

Yesterday, handing information on what's going on with the Fairness for all Marylanders Act. Also trying to get people away from this booth of opponents (anti-trans people). Eventually I had a few of them come ask me what I was doing. They all were nice and some gave me compliments. One of the older volunteers asked me how I would feel about a guy walking into the rest room if I was in there. My first thought was "well it's been happening for years". I told him that it isn't a fear of mine and that I'm not worried. That made those 2 and a half hours of baking in the sun, passing out flyers and talking to strangers amazing.

Good pass for sure there Hayley, good job hon! 

[Eva Marie]

So I was at a trans support group meeting and about 2/3 of the way through it I notice one of the new people to the group staring at me. They continue to stare for the rest of the meeting. When the meeting wraps up, they come over to me and say "for most of the meeting I thought you were a _real_ woman. I kept wondering why you were here". I just said back "Thanks, but I _am_ a real woman!"  Someone needs to learn the term cis.

That's a definite pass April!!! 

[Lyric]

Barbie, you'll always be my 예쁜 언니 (pretty sister).

... Also trying to get people away from this booth of opponents (anti-trans people)...

I find it pretty much impossible to understand such people. Why do people try to stop others from doing things that have no effect on them?

Someone needs to learn the term cis.

I'm doubting that "cis" will ever become a part of the common language.

[Allyda]

Yesterday we (kiddo and me) went to children birthday party - so to avoid any "issues" with unfamiliar people I decided to dress in my previous "guy mode" - straight-cut light blue jeans, Hilfiger longsleeve light blue-white-ish shirt (L size, Madras/tartan pattern of course, lol). Leather belt and canvas shoulderbag were the only andro hints - I supposed fixed hair and rolled up sleeves dont count lol. We took a taxi-cab, chatted with a driver about random things and... of course... We are almost there, I am combing little princess' hair, she gets a bit capricious, our driver checks us out in her front mirror, turns around, smiles and says "Hey, lookie, Your mommy is fixing Your hair, pretty one!".
I went inside like "Dammit, and I was really making an effort...".

Great pass Emily. I love the ones where kids are involved. It makes the experience that much sweeter. Especially when your dressed down as you were.

Ally

[Shantel]

Yesterday we (kiddo and me) went to children birthday party - so to avoid any "issues" with unfamiliar people I decided to dress in my previous "guy mode" - straight-cut light blue jeans, Hilfiger longsleeve light blue-white-ish shirt (L size, Madras/tartan pattern of course, lol). Leather belt and canvas shoulderbag were the only andro hints - I supposed fixed hair and rolled up sleeves dont count lol. We took a taxi-cab, chatted with a driver about random things and... of course... We are almost there, I am combing little princess' hair, she gets a bit capricious, our driver checks us out in her front mirror, turns around, smiles and says "Hey, lookie, Your mommy is fixing Your hair, pretty one!".
I went inside like "Dammit, and I was really making an effort...".

Total man fail sorry bout that!

[JessikaBlackMage]

when you go to the hospital and they ask you when was the last time you got your period, or when they do an XRay and they ask you is there any chance you might be pregnant.

[MaryXYX]

I'm doubting that "cis" will ever become a part of the common language.

"cis-gender" is in the Oxford English Dictionary.  As of about now - or perhaps this is a sneak preview.  Courtesy of a t-girl friend of mine who works there.

[Polo]

You know you pass when someone you've just met gives you creepy attraction vibes and then starts openly bashing trans people in a conversation with you and your friend.

Then you wait for the right moment to tell them add "pop" goes their head.

Popping skulls since 2012

LOL that made my afternoon, if only that could be made into a bumper sticker...

[Incarlina]

My old hairdresser asked me how long I'd had long hair. My new hairdresser asked if I'd ever had short hair.

[Carrie Liz]

You know you pass when you're going to get your name and gender marker updated with the Social Security administration, and when you present the clerk with your therapist's letter to change your gender on file, as well as the court order for your name change, he smiles and says "I never would have known." (plus uses correct name and pronouns the whole time, and speaks to you in that endearing "talking to a pretty girl" tone that guys use, despite knowing that you're trans and even knowing your old name.)

That made me feel pretty darn good!

[Adam (birkin)]

I was taking a course and the teacher put me with the guys (we had to be sex segregated). Later on she makes an off handed comment about people "pretending to be the opposite sex" and how "everyone can always tell what they really are." Lol well evidently not.

[Shantel]

I was taking a course and the teacher put me with the guys (we had to be sex segregated). Later on she makes an off handed comment about people "pretending to be the opposite sex" and how "everyone can always tell what they really are." Lol well evidently not.

That was a great pass, you should have given the teacher a www.full body smack-down just to celebrate! 

[LordKAT]

Best one yet, Mr. Hamster.