The New you know you pass when

[immortal gypsy]

FYI - Cis men don't make eye contact and avoid looking at people's faces in the men's room. They rarely speak to another person, just get in and get out, sadly many don't even bother to wash their hands afterwards. The reason for all this odd behavior is rooted in homophobia and fears of being seen as possibly gay. No trans man should have any undue fear of using the men's room, no-one is going to be looking at you. When using the stall be sure the seat is urine free, some cis men haven't been properly potty trained and are slobs.

The only time I have ever heard a random conversation in a mens bathroom is during a sporting event about said game. Even then it is do what you have to do get out no hanging around. The necter of the Gods probably helps in loseing a few peoples lips, and yeah check the seats, bowl, and for paper noting will harden your stomach after a few visits to some filthy bathrooms

[Jill F]

The transwoman standing next to you doesn't seem to notice even after you smile at her.   I usually set off others' transgen-dar.

[spooky]

This one made me super happy.

I was talking to a customer at work.  I was putting a lot of effort into making my voice sound good, but wasn't really sure if it was working.  At the end of our conversation, the customer said to me, "I have to say, your voice is so nice..."  I expected her to follow up with something like, "I could hardly even tell," or, "good effort!"  Instead she said, "You must be a singer or an actress?"

I smiled all day long.

[LizMarie]

I am having experiences that I didn't quite expect now that I'm legal and full time. For example, I've had men ogle me during the evening. But yesterday was a bit of a surprise. We were at work in meetings all day, a usual Monday sprint planning session, when we broke for lunch. We went to a sandwich place called Rising Roll that makes some pretty nice sandwiches. Standing in line, I noticed four men who appeared to be close to my own age.

And that's when I noticed one giving me the once over. At first, I wondered if I'd been clocked, if I'd been recognized. But then I made eye contact. A smile, a small raise of his eyebrows, a slight tilt of his head, and a half nod and he immediately began talking to his friend, his eyes still on me.

I turned away blushing at that point, completely unexpectedly. I think that was a pass and then some.

[Shantel]

I am having experiences that I didn't quite expect now that I'm legal and full time. For example, I've had men ogle me during the evening. But yesterday was a bit of a surprise. We were at work in meetings all day, a usual Monday sprint planning session, when we broke for lunch. We went to a sandwich place called Rising Roll that makes some pretty nice sandwiches. Standing in line, I noticed four men who appeared to be close to my own age.

And that's when I noticed one giving me the once over. At first, I wondered if I'd been clocked, if I'd been recognized. But then I made eye contact. A smile, a small raise of his eyebrows, a slight tilt of his head, and a half nod and he immediately began talking to his friend, his eyes still on me.

I turned away blushing at that point, completely unexpectedly. I think that was a pass and then some.

I love reading about these victorious little events because they are really big and meaningful!

[antonia]

Awesome pass, thanks for sharing

I am having experiences that I didn't quite expect now that I'm legal and full time. For example, I've had men ogle me during the evening. But yesterday was a bit of a surprise. We were at work in meetings all day, a usual Monday sprint planning session, when we broke for lunch. We went to a sandwich place called Rising Roll that makes some pretty nice sandwiches. Standing in line, I noticed four men who appeared to be close to my own age.

And that's when I noticed one giving me the once over. At first, I wondered if I'd been clocked, if I'd been recognized. But then I made eye contact. A smile, a small raise of his eyebrows, a slight tilt of his head, and a half nod and he immediately began talking to his friend, his eyes still on me.

I turned away blushing at that point, completely unexpectedly. I think that was a pass and then some.

[GorJess]

I was at work yesterday with my coworkers, all female, and we discuss when we all got our first periods, as a 'just us gals' kind of talk, with nary a look about me, and mine-everyone went around the room, the eight of us, to say what grade it was. Since I really try to blend in, and saying I don't get them is a question I'd not explain further, I say mine came later. Which isn't wrong, its equivalent will after SRS, that's for darn sure.

It made me really happy that I've made it that far, but also really hurt inside, because well, yeah, I can't, and thus, I'm barren, and that emotional pain led to physical pain, and deep tears. My mother, always supportive, told me not to worry about the functions my body can't perform, but rather, what it can perform, in addition to what I've done to get where I am, to get to that point, plus SRS next spring. Sigh. I've never been able to get over the fact that I'm not a natal girl, nor do I think the future holds much hope there.

[antonia]

I'm in the situation where I was born without the ability to have my own genetic children but frankly it does not bother me much and I wasn't that disappointed when the doctors told me about my condition.

You as a person are the sum of two things, your genes and your experiences. Now consider that you share 99.9% of your genes with just about every other human on the planet and that you can pass on your experiences regardless of how closely you are related to someone.

Adoption is not only an option but possibly a way to pass on something greater than the 0.1% gene variance, it's a way to pass on your kindness, compassion and humanity.

As for not being born with XX chromosomes there really isn't anything you, me or anyone else can do about that. The world is full of things that we don't like but can't change and the only way we can go on with our lives is to accept them and make the best of our situation. Take strength from others like one of my favourite persons in the world; Lizzie Velasquez http://www.aboutlizzie.com who has had more challenges thrown at her than just about any person I know but is vibrant and full of life.

I was at work yesterday with my coworkers, all female, and we discuss when we all got our first periods, as a 'just us gals' kind of talk, with nary a look about me, and mine-everyone went around the room, the eight of us, to say what grade it was. Since I really try to blend in, and saying I don't get them is a question I'd not explain further, I say mine came later. Which isn't wrong, its equivalent will after SRS, that's for darn sure.

It made me really happy that I've made it that far, but also really hurt inside, because well, yeah, I can't, and thus, I'm barren, and that emotional pain led to physical pain, and deep tears. My mother, always supportive, told me not to worry about the functions my body can't perform, but rather, what it can perform, in addition to what I've done to get where I am, to get to that point, plus SRS next spring. Sigh. I've never been able to get over the fact that I'm not a natal girl, nor do I think the future holds much hope there.

[April_TO]

On my way home tonight, I pass by a local pizza place and started ordering. I have a pixie hair so its a bit short and I don't normally wear extensions unless I have to and only when I am in the mood for it. I started ordering and this lady at the counter keeps calling me miss

Music to my ears LOL...It's been only 2 months on hormones. Here's my most recent pic - I know I look pissed LOL

[rosinstraya]

On my way home tonight, I pass by a local pizza place and started ordering. I have a pixie hair so its a bit short and I don't normally wear extensions unless I have to and only when I am in the mood for it. I started ordering and this lady at the counter keeps calling me miss

Music to my ears LOL...It's been only 2 months on hormones. Here's my most recent pic - I know I look pissed LOL

You look fantastic!

I got a ma'm and a lady this afternoon whilst doing food shopping. Eyeliner draws attention away from other areas I think!

[April_TO]

Victory for us Rosintraya woohoo xo

[MaryXYX]

You do look fantastic Carmenkate, and totally a "Miss".

[April_TO]

Thanks Maryxyx..you are a doll..xo

[Jennygirl]

You know you pass when you walk into a trans bar and get asked "so what brings you here?"

Then you are sure that you have passed when before photos are demanded as proof

[Shantel]

You know you pass when you walk into a trans bar and get asked "so what brings you here?"

Then you are sure that you have passed when before photos are demanded as proof

Yes indeed! And did they eventually believe you?

[Allyda]

You know you pass when you walk into a trans bar and get asked "so what brings you here?"

Then you are sure that you have passed when before photos are demanded as proof

Nice pass Jenny. Especially the photo requests. I'm happy to see and hear how happy you are and things are going for you!

Ally

[antonia]

There's passing and then there is passing beyond reasonable doubt, I think you just pulled off the latter

You know you pass when you walk into a trans bar and get asked "so what brings you here?"

Then you are sure that you have passed when before photos are demanded as proof

[Jill F]

You know you pass when you walk into a trans bar and get asked "so what brings you here?"

Then you are sure that you have passed when before photos are demanded as proof

Where did you go?

[Jennygirl]

SRO Lounge in San Diego with the one and only MaidofOrleans

I went down to visit her in San Diego this weekend. We went out on Saturday night and then played airsoft all day yesterday. We were the only girls there, it was kinda hilarious. I am gonna have to go down again soon, had way too much fun.

[Sydney_NYC]

Then you are sure that you have passed when before photos are demanded as proof

This happened to me at a cis-lesbian bar (with a lesbian couple from Kentucky celebrating getting married in NY) and they still didn't believe me, they said that that had to be my brother. It took witnesses (my wife and a close friend) to convince her.