The New you know you pass when

[MiaOhMya!]

Well if youre at the point where the manager tells you to use the womens, then you need not be afraid. I was too afraid to go in the Mens actually, that is why I started using womens. Really no one notices...ever. I say use the womens room and it will be alright...and yeah dirty.

[Alainaluvsu]

and yeah dirty.

Well the mens room stinks to hell and back. I usually try to just hold it.

[KateConnors]

You catch a flight with Air France, and they all refer to you as Madame despite what your ticket says (I noticed that the French like to put you in one gender box or the other).

Currently on a work trip to Saudi Arabia (yes you read that right).  After the experience of the transatlantic flight (where I thought I was flying as male), I decided when transferring at Paris to bind my chest, tie my hair back and butch it up.  Made it through Saudi customs, but didn't half get weird looks and double takes (especially in the men's room) in the airport.

[Jeneva]

Ok, so one of our friends calls and is talking to me and needing to vent about all the "inspectors" that keep showing up for his new salon out of his house.  And then he mentions that this woman who we've met before is finally starting to harass him enough for him to get a restraining order.  She is like 20+ years older than him and decided that she needed some sex and was going to get it from him.  Never mind that he has told her tons of stories about his ex-boyfriend that lives on the corner.  She just keeps showing up out of the blue and trying to waltz in even if he is working with someone right then.

So anyway he also mentions that she said to him the other day "I thought you said they were married."  So he said yes they are.  And then she said "I know she is a woman too.  They can't be married."

[Alainaluvsu]

When you haven't shaved in a day or two, you walk into a place wearing male clothes and no makeup, and you still get maam'd.

[JenJen2011]

....When you take a picture in any and all angles and all you see is a woman.

[kelly_aus]

When you haven't shaved in a day or two, you walk into a place wearing male clothes and no makeup, and you still get maam'd.

+1 to this..

[Keaira]

I've used the men's room once since I went full time and that was at the movie theater. And OMG did I feel awkward. I mean like I was in the wrong bathroom with the wrong sex. I about had a panic attack.

My first experience of passing was when my wife and I were shopping at the Home Depot and one of the  asked "Can I help you ladies find something today?"

Another time  there was a kid named Kyle who had just graduated from High School who came to work in my area.
The conversation went like this:

Me: I know you!
Kyle: You do?
Me: Yes. High School graduation. You are friends with my Daughters.
Kyle: Who are your Daughters?
Me: Tori and Lacy.
Kyle: You're Tori and lacy's Mom?
Me: Errr.....yea?

Meanwhile I was thinking "Crap! I was not expecting that kind of response. Awkward!"

Kyle: Tori will flip out when she hears I work with her Mom.
Me: She knows already! That's how I know you.

And there are the numerous times I've been called Ma'am on the phone. or at drive-thru's.

[peky]

I've used the men's room once since I went full time and that was at the movie theater. And OMG did I feel awkward. I mean like I was in the wrong bathroom with the wrong sex. I about had a panic attack.

My first experience of passing was when my wife and I were shopping at the Home Depot and one of the  asked "Can I help you ladies find something today?"

Another time  there was a kid named Kyle who had just graduated from High School who came to work in my area.
The conversation went like this:

Me: I know you!
Kyle: You do?
Me: Yes. High School graduation. You are friends with my Daughters.
Kyle: Who are your Daughters?
Me: Tori and Lacy.
Kyle: You're Tori and lacy's Mom?
Me: Errr.....yea?

Meanwhile I was thinking "Crap! I was not expecting that kind of response. Awkward!"

Kyle: Tori will flip out when she hears I work with her Mom.
Me: She knows already! That's how I know you.

And there are the numerous times I've been called Ma'am on the phone. or at drive-thru's.

That is so funny, LOL

[Rebecca Perez]

The closest I have gotten was going to a dermatologist about my skin not looking very good after electrolysis.

The doctor asked me what medications I was taking and mentioned spiranolactone and estradiol. She got a puzzled look on her face and asked, "Why are you taking those?" I replied, "Well, because I am transgendered." "Oh, are you a female to male?"

So being a M2F, I at least got confused as a F2M. Yay?

[Keaira]

I would get mistaken for an FtM before I started HRT every time I told someone I was trans.

[Alainaluvsu]

I was with some friends who don't know I'm trans yet (so obviously in boy mode). We were at a restaurant.

Waitress had been "maaming" me the entire time. She comes up to us with our tickets

Friend: "Me and her are together, and these 2 gentlemen are separate"
Waitress: "Wait... haha... that's funny. Why did you call her a gentleman?"

Friend looks at me with the strangest look in his face and laughs.

Friend: "Huh??"
Waitress: "That's a girl... why would you call her a guy?"

Friend is slightly confused... I'm just looking at the waitress with a smile

Friend: "That's a guy... his name is ..."
Waitress: *She looks at me really closely* "Oh my God... I'm sooo confused.."
Friend: "What do you mean, you can't see he's a guy?"
Waitress: "Uhh..." She looks at me "Say something!!"

I say something in a rather female tone

Waitress: *Pauses with an even more confused look on her face* "Wait... Ok I'm still confused... so you used to be a girl and now your a guy? Oh god I'm so embarrassed!!"

I'm just looking at her with a smile, enjoying every minute of her embarrassment and confusion.

Friend: "No... he's always been a guy..."
Waitress: "But I... I don't get it, you look like a girl!! I mean how did you?" as she is moving her hands around her face, indicating that my face looks feminine
Friend: "He has really pretty hair! You're looking at his hair! He's a cosmetologist, I mean you wouldn't eat from a skinny cook would you? It's his advertisement!"
Waitress: "Ummm... I am sooo embarrassed. I'm SO sorry!!"
Me: "That's okay! You can make it up to me by coming by my school and getting your hair done! I go to school at ..."
Waitress: "Oh God... I DEFINITELY will! I promise *my real name*! I'm so sorry!!"

It really made my day, lol!

[stef_]

That's awesome Alaina! I had an experience where my gf and I were buying jacket potatoes and when I payed she said: there you go girls, even though the only thing particularly femme I was wearing was nail polish! Made my day.

Oh and on the phone a taxi driver wouldn't believe that Stef wasn't short for Stephanie. I kept insisting it was just Stef not short for anything. In the end I just said "Yeah it's short for Stephanie" to get him off the phone.

[Alexis]

I mean you wouldn't eat from a skinny cook would you? It's his advertisement!"

That's epic Alaina!
I've also always loved that, but I've always wondered, does that mean never trust a sober bartender...?

[Keaira]

My favorite confusion moment was sometime last year. I rented a car from Enterprise to drive to my doctor's appointment in Indianapolis. And you know how they have someone pick you up from your house to take you to their office, do the paperwork, etc.?
Well the guy picking me up was an older gentleman. He pulled up outside my house and got out. I was standing outside waiting for him. He was looking at the house for a moment and I asked if I could help him.

He said he was here for John Finlay.
I said that was me.
And his eyes went wide for a moment and then he gave me a really weird stare like he didn't believe me.
"Funny, you don't look like a John..."
So I smile sweetly. I'm not in a skirt or dress or anything, just pants, blouse and coat.

So I went and got my wife and we got into the car. I turned to the Enterprise rep and asked him "So if I don't look like a John, who do I look like?"

He looks at me hard this time and I see the look of confusion again.  My wife is in the back seat loving this moment. But the guy says, "Errr... must be the long hair."

The whole time he's driving I had a big smile on my face. I had finally confused the crap out of someone about my identity.

[peky]

My favorite confusion moment was sometime last year. I rented a car from Enterprise to drive to my doctor's appointment in Indianapolis. And you know how they have someone pick you up from your house to take you to their office, do the paperwork, etc.?
Well the guy picking me up was an older gentleman. He pulled up outside my house and got out. I was standing outside waiting for him. He was looking at the house for a moment and I asked if I could help him.

He said he was here for John Finlay.
I said that was me.
And his eyes went wide for a moment and then he gave me a really weird stare like he didn't believe me.
"Funny, you don't look like a John..."
So I smile sweetly. I'm not in a skirt or dress or anything, just pants, blouse and coat.

So I went and got my wife and we got into the car. I turned to the Enterprise rep and asked him "So if I don't look like a John, who do I look like?"

He looks at me hard this time and I see the look of confusion again.  My wife is in the back seat loving this moment. But the guy says, "Errr... must be the long hair."

The whole time he's driving I had a big smile on my face. I had finally confused the crap out of someone about my identity.

I can only imagiine the poor guy. Very funny story !!!!

[Jeneva]

JDRF walk was today.  Trialnet had a tent and we wanted to get our daughter tested for their research and also because it could let us know if she is predisposed to get type 1 diabetes too.  We stopped in front of the tent and were trying to convince her to let them draw blood.  One of the nurses came out of the tent and asked if she could help us.  We explained that our son had type 1 and we wanted her to participate in their study so we could at least have an early warning.  She looked at the two of us and then hesitantly asked "Oh, are they siblings?"  We could tell by the expression on her face that because we are a lesbian couple that she just assumed we had adopted two children at different times or something like that (different donors/different mothers).

[Alainaluvsu]

When you show a picture ID of your old self, fill out paper work with your male name, and STILL get ma'amd without a thought by the person taking the paper work and checking the ID.

[Keroppi]

... someone call you sir (for MTF or vice versa), your natural reaction is to look at the person like they're crazy.

That was a new reaction for me.

[peky]

So, after another "this is not you" by a policeman, I got the gender designator changed from M to F. One more milestone down.