More comfortable with my... feminine side?? Huh?!

[Biscuit_Stix]

Well, I didn't see this coming. Now that I'm dressing male, acting male, doing my damnedest to pass (and doing it well), I am suddenly more comfortable with my feminine side. I think it's just because I'm more comfortable in my own skin, and now that I can act the way I've always felt I should, I like 'me' more. But I never thought I'd be okay with having a touch of a feminine side. Honestly, I thought transitioning would eradicate all traces of feminine that I grew to hate so much. But I guess I hated it because it wasn't my choice, because of all of the 'grow up and act like a lady!' mind-wash. I suddenly don't have to listen to that anymore, and in taking control of my life, I thought any residual feminine aspects would head for the hills... but, they haven't. And I'm oddly okay with having a bit of a feminine touch. It's so profoundly... strange o_o Enlightening, but very strange. Anyone else been here too? I'd love an outside opinion. Or 10, hahaha!

[Kyle_S]

I can relate. I'm pretty masculine, but since coming out to myself, and everyone else....I'm not afraid to be that "sensitive guy" to my own personal extent. I cuddle animals, and watch romantic movies.  I actually think that it makes me a better man.

[Josh]

exaactly what Kyle said!!

[King Malachite]

I can kind of relate.  Lately I too have been learning to embrace my feminine side.  It's easier to enjoy something when it's not being forced down your throat.

[Adio]

I'd rather not be seen as feminine, but I don't mind being viewed as "sensitive".  I find that a lot of women respond better to me that way (I work with a ton of women, very few men).  Men, not as much, but I can relate to other guys in a different way while still being true to who I am. 

[justmeinoz]

I am seeing a similar effect with regard to masculinity peeping through at times.  If you are finally comfortable with yourself, then I guess you are comfortable with all of yourself.

Karen.

[smittyFTM]

totally relate. i've never really had a 'feminine' side but i'm much more comfortable being sensitive (i still cry a little when i see, say, a basket of puppies LOL). i think it's a good thing

[Natkat]

Im felling the same.

its like as less I pass as more I have to prove my manhood, but when I dont have to prove it anymore and im just me, then I dont feel like hidding my femenine side.

I guess in a way I actually pass better being femenine than maculine because people look my femenine sides as just being yeah a femenine boy, and dont pay special attention, unlike when im rather masuline and then people go like "wow you have so soft hands" or something.

[N.Chaos]

I can definitely relate. Before I was aware of all this, I hid a lot of stuff about myself, primarily that I wrote poetry or wrote at all, and 90% of my art. Stopped wearing makeup for about half a year when I was in the process of figuring myself out and trying to be all normal guy and such. I eventually found someone on, ironically, deviantart who was a massive help to me, and really indirectly gave me the balls to be myself again. I think he may have been the one I first heard "you shouldn't have to change yourself to be yourself" from.

Also, I'm a lot less ashamed of my addicted to DIYing and sewing. IDGAF if its supposedly a wimpy thing to do; IMO, there's nothing more badass than being self-sufficient in any way.

[smittyFTM]

Also, I'm a lot less ashamed of my addicted to DIYing and sewing. IDGAF if its supposedly a wimpy thing to do; IMO, there's nothing more badass than being self-sufficient in any way.
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THIS!! :-)

[Paul]

I was actually told by a friend over the weekend that one of the things she likes about me is that I'm a sensitive guy.  I'm completely okay with being a sensitive/feminine guy.  I work in a primarily female field (residential--I work with the Developmentally Disabled) and there are only 3 guys that work at the house I work at.  I'm not at all "feminine" in the girly sense, but sensitive and I think that makes me a better man.