Quote from: insideontheoutside on March 01, 2012, 12:27:11 AM
The other thing is, I'm not "transitioning". I've been on various hormones throughout my life (usually due to some doctor wanting to try to make me "normal" - in a binary gender type of way) and found messing with the levels really doesn't agree with me. My "normal" is everyone else's abnormal I guess. I'm not interested in any surgeries either. So while I can identify with FTMs I can't really say I am one.
While I identify with transsexuals (and I do fit the loose, text-book definition) I don't call myself one either.
I am definitely androgynous. Over the years I've found I've gotten more comfortable with just looking androgynous.
I feel I don't need a label, I but I feel like I need people in my life that I can relate to and that can relate to my situation as well. I only have a few friends in "real life" that really know me and who I am on the inside.
Anyone else feel like this?
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Trying to relate to anyone who isn't non-binary just leaves one lacking even more in loneliness of a sort.
You know that on almost all levels that they really haven't a clue as to who you are.
And in some cases you haven't a clue as to why they are so inept mentally when it comes to even attempting to understand.
To try and stuff those 'ends' of the binary into your thought patterns and reacting to situations or trains of thought as they do, is impossible.
The constant barage of it being a world of binary driven expressions, the insistence of binaries that it is the only way to think, is tiring.
I have a dream of finding even one soul who can truly understand, in real life.
Even though I may have met a few, we don't have the opportunities to express ourselves in most situations to be able to put ourselves out there for all the complications that the binary world will put in front of us.
It's not a matter of us 'coming out of the closet', the door is usually bolted from the outside by binaries.
My loneliness comes from the lack of an answer even when I shout and beat on the door.
Sadly, we are the 'transdenders' that binary 'transgenders' are afraid will diminish their accomplishments in fighting the cisworld.
We are the people who are told to sit quietly and not rock 'their' boat. 'Just sit there and row. would you?'.
Which is strange, considering how many like to visit the forest.
Why they then like us, I suppose is that they don't have to answer to the binary world for a moment themselves.
They are the false hopes of thinking that someone understands. It is usually short lived.
There are so many of us in the real world, maybe someday our efforts to legitimize the transgender and transsexual world will allow us our freedom to at least be heard, although most likely still refused to be understood.
At least we will be able to find each other, and ease some of that pain of loneliness.
Until then, I guess, most of us will have to settle with knowing that we are here, in the silence that the world would rather we exist in.
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