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Started by Tracey, November 16, 2011, 06:24:25 PM

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cynthialee

 ;D

I think you just made my point rather well.

8)
So it is said that if you know your enemies and know yourself, you can win a hundred battles without a single loss.
If you only know yourself, but not your opponent, you may win or may lose.
If you know neither yourself nor your enemy, you will always endanger yourself.
Sun Tsu 'The art of War'
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Mahsa Tezani

Quote from: cynthialee on November 16, 2011, 11:01:32 PM
;D

I think you just made my point rather well.

8)

I took a vicodin last night..still feeling the effects.
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cynthialee

Vicodin...hmmmm
we do have something in common after all!

  :D
So it is said that if you know your enemies and know yourself, you can win a hundred battles without a single loss.
If you only know yourself, but not your opponent, you may win or may lose.
If you know neither yourself nor your enemy, you will always endanger yourself.
Sun Tsu 'The art of War'
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Mahsa Tezani

Quote from: cynthialee on November 16, 2011, 11:15:10 PM
Vicodin...hmmmm
we do have something in common after all!

  :D

I've been having a lot of issues lately. It relaxes me.
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cynthialee

Me, its allot of pain.
HIV related pain syndrom and fybromyalgia team up to kick my ass hard on a near daily bassis.
So it is said that if you know your enemies and know yourself, you can win a hundred battles without a single loss.
If you only know yourself, but not your opponent, you may win or may lose.
If you know neither yourself nor your enemy, you will always endanger yourself.
Sun Tsu 'The art of War'
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Mahsa Tezani

Quote from: cynthialee on November 16, 2011, 11:22:44 PM
Me, its allot of pain.
HIV related pain syndrom and fybromyalgia team up to kick my ass hard on a near daily bassis.

I just have been depressed due to not being able to get out of the house and socialize without drama from my mister.

That and I couldn't afford to change my name. So more in the gutter until I can raise 600 somehow.
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tekla

a mix of honesty and defending myself.

Yeah that honesty thing gets 'em every time.  Really, (and kids, pay close attention here) if you want to be liked.  If you want to be popular.  If you want to go to the A-List parties and get taken out to $200 lunches every week all you have to do is lie.  Lie, lie, lie.  Lie like a rug lie.  The more you can tell people the lies they really want to hear, the more popular you will be. 

And, if you want to go the other way, tell the truth.  Tell the truth regardless.  And work on making it very plain and unvarnished.  The simple honest truth. The plainer you can speak the truth the more people you'll find who will create two-minute hates in your honor. 
FIGHT APATHY!, or don't...
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Mahsa Tezani

Quote from: tekla on November 17, 2011, 12:04:03 AM
a mix of honesty and defending myself.

Yeah that honesty thing gets 'em every time.  Really, (and kids, pay close attention here) if you want to be liked.  If you want to be popular.  If you want to go to the A-List parties and get taken out to $200 lunches every week all you have to do is lie.  Lie, lie, lie.  Lie like a rug lie.  The more you can tell people the lies they really want to hear, the more popular you will be. 

I can't do that. I would rather not compromise my honesty than be popular, especially in a situation like this.

But in the SF a-list scene...I totally agree with lies. But most of the people are beautiful there, so I am not lying.
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tekla

I used to do a lot of art stuff, exhibitions, gallery openings, theater stuff - you know anywhere where they are serving free wine and snacks.  And I got really good at being honest without offending people but it was very tricky.  You have to go with stuff that is so vague that it's impossible to really tell.  Here are some of my top hits.

Only you could do something like that. (because anyone else would have done something better)

I've never seen anything like that. (and god willing, I never will again)

This is amazing!  (amazingly bad)
FIGHT APATHY!, or don't...
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Anatta

Kia Ora,

::) What one gives out[advice, scorn etc]-they must be prepared to get back- and the getting back for some is a hard pill to swallow !

Metta Zenda :) 
"The most essential method which includes all other methods is beholding the mind. The mind is the root from which all things grow. If you can understand the mind, everything else is included !"   :icon_yes:
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tekla

If you're talking about people who tell the truth most of the time tend to get the truth told to them, while people who don't tend to get lied to a lot more - I'll kind of buy that.  That's the old sugar for sugar, salt for salt thing.  I know that being truthful with people has led them to be truthful with me, telling me things that they would never share with anyone else.  I also know that people who lie a lot are pretty easy to lie to, and people who tend to truth are harder to lie to.

But, if your talking some sort of karma deal, then I'm not so sold.  I've seen far too many examples of human scum bags having awesome lives, and of good, decent people getting nothing but suffering and abuse piled on them.  I'm convinced that that's why the 'karma' faith systems had to invent reincarnation to get around the fact that pretty much everywhere, and throughout history, karma seldom works out in in real people's real lives in that nice, neat morality play.

And I should add that I tend to truthfulness not out of some superior morality, or because I have some sort of core value like the 'radical honesty' people do.  I tend to truth because: a) I'm not creative enough, and quick enough to do those kind of mental gymnastics all the time and what little creativity I have I choose to use on other things, and, b) I'm really, really lazy.  Really.  And I don't want to have to constantly expend the energy to keep all those stories straight, and to always have to be thinking 'what did I tell this person?'.  If you tell the truth you never have to do that. 

The fact that - a lot like choosing to be happy and live in joy - it just pisses so many people off is just a bonus.
FIGHT APATHY!, or don't...
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Anatta

Kia Ora Tekla,

::) What I meant was, at times some people are quite capable of dishing out truths[how they personally see things, sometime using constructive criticism, other times in a vindictive manner ], but the same people have a hard time when they are on the receiving end of the other person's truth...

::) Being brutally open and honest with ones 'opinions' is not necessarily the 'truth', just that person's personal 'beliefs' on the matter at hand...........

In other words ones personal honesty does not always equate the 'truth' of the situation...........Example "I might 'think' so and so is stupid/ugly/fat/obnoxious/etc !"[not that I ever would think that of a person] when another might  think[the same person] is street-wise/attractive/voluptuous/up-front/etc ...

::) Now karma's another topic altogether- "You reap what you sow" The word literally means 'action' and for the most part we're all aware of the  universal laws of cause, condition, effect and results-for every action there's a reaction= Dependent Origination it's part and parcel of 'life' as we know it...One can't escape it...

However reincarnation can be a hard pill to swallow, even I don't 'believe' in this, however I can quite comfortably believe in the Buddhist concept of rebirth...Reincarnation and rebirth are two different things as you know-[well I'm presuming you know, but I could be wrong-I have been known to be wrong at times  ;) ...   

Metta Zenda :)
"The most essential method which includes all other methods is beholding the mind. The mind is the root from which all things grow. If you can understand the mind, everything else is included !"   :icon_yes:
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Devlyn

Quote from Zythyra "Susans is an inclusive site. Our umbrella includes drag queens and kings." That's the Susans I signed up for. Thanks for clarifying that. Hugs, Tracey
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Princess of Hearts

For Tekla.   I believe that the moon landing never happened!

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Amazon D

What about JOHNs.. they should be added to the LGBTQ+J :)

They suffer lots of sexual discrimination.. why aren't they included here ???
I'm an Amazon womyn + very butch + respecting MWMF since 1999 unless invited. + I AM A HIPPIE

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Devlyn

Someone said we need a Drag Forum. We had a "We need a Drag Queen Forum" thread by Mahsa but the thread was locked so I can't bump it. That thread spawned this one, here it is for your viewing pleasure. (again) Hugs, Devlyn
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Constance

Devlyn,

I'd suggest making a post in the Suggestions forum.