Question

[monica]

I have a question..I know it's not recomended to take anything before seeing a doctor and getting on a plan for HRT but right now I'm not in the position to get help..I'm wondering if there's any MINOR kind of medicine I could start secretly taking..that wouldn't have much risk involved if I were careful about it. My reason for this is because I want SOMETHING to feel like I've started this process..And I'm still scared to come out to anyone about this..I feel if I take a small step on my own it might help me to get this out in the open so I can get the correct help to fix it.

Thanks alot

Monica

[Tanya1]

I don't want to suggest it but if your going to do it then better know this.

Once you start HRT you have to take Estrogen for LIFE- you can lower doses once you opt for SRS or get castration.

I recommend bio hormones as the risks for it are very low. It really depends what you mean by this post though. do you want to get changes which are noticable? or do you want something small?

Self-medicating has disadvantages in that you can't monitor you hormonal levels so you have no idea if the regimen your self-prescribing is doing any good.

Now, you need Anti-androgens too.

I suggest you lose wieght in a healthy way if your obese as you don't want heart disease, stop smoking, drinking, any drugs, and start eating healthy.

Make sure your liver, kidney, lungs,, heart, blood pressure, cholestrol and overall health is in good condition.

Do NOT take premarin or any synthetic hormones- it is much more dangerous and likely to get you caught.

I suggest you do some serious research on how to carefully adminster the drugs you plan on self-prescribing, what effects it has on other drugs & foods and to be sure you have no serious medical condition.


Seriously though if your just planning to take it for 1-3 months and stop that's just stupid because in that time frame in you can see a therapist and if they feel you your ready you can start HRT safely, cheaply and effectively.

If your planning to take it for 1-3 yrs- this is very serious as you may over-dose, have serious complications if your not aware of medical conditions or if the medicines don't suit you. Also if your an adult around 30 and especially 40+ you can likely incounter a problem


My suggestion- See a therapist if you can and have money too- you may find out your not really trans, you may start HRT sooner than you think, and it can help you.

[Ember Lewis]

There's nothing to fear or be embarrassed about in seeking therapy which you need to do before getting on HRT. Just say you have some issues that you would like to talk about, end of story you don't need to explain anything to anyone. And when you get on HRT and people ask questions just say my medical issues are between me and my Dr. or say you have an imbalance. There's nothing you can do about physical changes if you don't wan't that you should not start HRT.

[monica]

Thank you both for your replies. I suppose I should have explained myself a little better. I'm 20 years old right now and live with my dad. I also have no license. This is what really makes it hard to see a doctor right now. And for some reason I'm just REALLY struggling with this coming out to dad thing. I know who I am, and want to scream it out to the world...But before anyone else can know, I have to tell the person I live with. And that seems to be what I can't do.

I want to start taking something, but don't want or expect huge changes from it. More or less I'm hoping it will be a confidence builder to be able to come out and say "this is who I am, and this is the kind of help I need" I'm not planning on doing this alone for year's, maybe months, with hope to be able to come out during those months and start seeing a doctor to hopefully get on a healthy, monitored hrt plan..

[monica]

Lol, those are all very good sugestions. Thank you for them Keira..Lately I've really been thinking about this whole thing, and feel he is the one I must start with. First off because I live with him, and there's no option of moving out right now. My dad is just a regular guy, haha a hippy I suppose you could describe him as. So I know he's outgoing already. Lately though he's been getting very into this Christian thing though, and I'm not sure how that will go, I'm afraid convictions with that may make it a rocky road..I dk. I do know though, that tonight I wrote out the letter I'm considering giving to him. I have to read over it, and decide if it's what I want to say, and if I feel it's right, but it's a start. Now just when to leave it for him

It's all steps though, and eventually I'll take enough small steps I'll be ready for a bigger one. It's all a mater of waiting to see where this trip takes me to. Hehe

-Monica

[Wing Walker]

I agree that seeing a therapist is the best "first step."

I do not recommend self-medicating as hormones can be very dangerous things if not properly administered and supervised by medical tests.  The liver can be damaged by improper hormone administration.

The "estrogen" that can be bought in a health food store will not change you in the least, except to make your pockets lighter.

It's not easy coming out to anyone, especially family.  Take the time that *you* need to write your letter and to find a therapist.  If you need help in looking for a therapist I will help you to do that.

Wing Walker

[monica]

Thank you both so much for your words. They mean alot to me, for I have noone else to share any of this with. Kiera you asked if my dad was born before 1956, I believe so, 1954 maybe. Not much before though. Overall he's a good guy, and has been there for me in life, I just don't know what type of reaction this will bring to him...I'm probably stressing about his reaction way to much, and setting myself up for this huge scary thing, which isn't so bad...A therapist would really help though. Wing you offered to help me find one, I would love that, if it's possible at all. Because lets face it, I'm lost. I know what direction I must head, but am confused on how to go about heading that way..If that makes sense?

Thank you both so much!

-Monica