Dreaming in the (as the) other gender...

[Josie M]

I used to have dreams where I either was a girl or was becoming a girl and everyone around me treated it like it was a totally normal thing.  Usually, I was pretty ok with it to.  Although, I remember one dream where my family couldn't afford the best "equipment" to let me be a girl (it was a weird dream) and I was very self-conscious about not looking "real" enough.

I don't really have those anymore.  Then again, I don't recall much of any of my dreams anymore.

[auburnAubrey]

Glad I found this thread. I was actually thinking of this the other day. I thought that if i'd eventually end up dreaming as female, id defenitely have fully transitioned (ie; id have the proper amount of confidence)
Anyways, before transition I frequently had nightmare, and I was male in 99% of them. Super occasionally I would have a dream where I would "cross dress" (MTF remember) and I would just feel so amazing, then I would wake up and genuinely feel ashamed.
Now, I EXCLUSIVELY dream as a female. I always dream in the first person, and im always female in all of those dreams. People treat me as such, and I have no such problems with anything.
Speaking of dreams and what not, I have this recuring nightmare where im driving a car, and i cant seem to brake (or rather, the brakes are not proportional to stopping power. Ill slamm them and ill only slow down slightly!) everytime i crash i wake up. Also, if I try to turn, I just end up spinning like im on ice, BUT I still keep going fast. Ive had this dream or a similar variant since I was an infant (round 4) any idea what this could be? FWIW I cant remember having a dream like that in the last 4 months or so that ive been living full time.

I've had that dream before.......  I'm sure Freud would say it's a fear of losing control, or not having control.... or not being able to do something about a problem you're facing...... but then again, I'm not Freud!  I do wonder how a 4 year old can be driving a car!     Dreams are weird sometimes.  I dreamt last night I was in this cool bar with a TON of my friends... but they were only friends in my dream.  I didn't know a single one of them in real life!  And, I was a total guy... my "old" self.   I kept saying, "I don't know why we don't do this more often".   It was such a good feeling... then my dinner came out, and it was 3 whole chickens (I'm a vegetarian), and a whole pot of this stew...  And I had no problem eating the chicken! (Never said in my dream I was a vegetarian).  I woke up, and just wondered how totally random that all was.

Oh well, it was better than the zombie apocolypse dream I had right before that one...

[Emmett]

When I can remember my dreams, I usually have little conscious awareness of my gender except that I am myself; Other times I can clearly tell that I am one gender or the other, or at times, both.
Although I especially love when my brain decides to throw me visions of my full-bodied male self. Makes me feel like I'm seeing myself as I should be. *sigh* :I

[Marcia]

I keep having the brake dream also. Sometimes it's trying to stop at a stop sign on country road. Sometimes it's in a parking lot at a store. Scares me everytime I have it. No matter how hard I press on the brake petal I just keep going. But somehow I have never crashed. But I think that's because no matter the dream when ever I am in extream danger of getting hurt I just wake up. I do get hurt but in my dreams but never very badly.

[Dante]

I almost always dream I am my biological sex, or ambiguous sex. I can't ever really physically tell, it's more of an aura that tells me whether I'm male, female, or otherwise.

I think my brain is far too aware of my situation, because even though I mostly dream I am female, I'm almost always aware that I'm transgender as well. In waking life, I always consider myself male, but I'm also overly aware of the fact I'm trans, so I think that part carries over into my dreams, and my dreams recreate real life for me instead of giving me a dream of being male like I've always wanted. >_>

[Julie Wilson]

I think I had one dream that I remembered where I was female.  I usually only remember the bad dreams.

[Constance]

I'm not sure which of the poll options would best suit me.

When I first started transitioning last year, I usually dreamed that I was male. Eventually, I started having some dreams where I was female. These days, most of my dreams I'm genderless.

[Marcia]

Thinking about the poll question it seems that in most of my dreams I'm genderless. But in the dreams that I do have a gender U think that it is about a 50/50 split. So not sure which one to choose.

[BruceWayne12]

I have not made any significant steps in physical transition yet, but I'm almost always male in my dreams with the exception of nightmares and dreams involving dysphoria, coming out, etc. As far as I can remember I have very rarely been entirely female within a dream without some form of recognition placed upon disliking the body I was given/desiring to be physically male.

[Jenny07]

I normally can't recall my dreams but the ones I most easily do often I am female and they are very intense. Others are about recent events and neither male or female. I do really enjoy the female dreams though and I am sad when I wake up that they were only a dream.
One can dream, literally.

[Elena G]

One of my favourite dreams happened a long time ago, when I wasn't even considering transition. As far as I can remember, I've always had dreams in which I was female, and needless to say they were the best. But this one in particular I haven't forgotten, probably because of the 'charm' it had. I was wearing this beautiful white dress, heels and had long, wavy dark hair. I felt GORGEOUS, and it all seemed like a commercial, very oniric. I was riding the bus and it was half empty, and sunlight was bathing the whole scene like you wouldn't believe. It was like New York in summer (even if I've never been there). So I get off the bus, and walk through these street that seems like an abandoned industrial place of some sort, but not dark or creepy or anything, and as I turn my dress and hair just move flawlessly like in those perfume commercials...

...and then I woke up.

I was expecting at least to see the name of the perfume but I didn't make it. 😀 So I figured I was dreaming I was a model or something and I was starring in this clip. I've never felt more beauty and peace in my whole (and real) life.

Crap.

[AshleeKel]

In my dreams, I am the same person that I am in reality - a pre-op transwoman. Oddly, I have quite a few dreams which involve me trying to avoid being seen as a male, which I find strange as normally my dreams make no sense whatsoever.

[Shana]

Before I fully accepted myself as a trans woman, I would have an occasional dream to where I was a woman...those were the best. After finding out and accepting who I was, almost any dream I'm not genderless in, I'm female.

[LuckyMe]

I very rarely recall my dreams except in a few occasions where something extreme happens in them (and I wake up in shock), but as an MTF that's been "repressed" for most of my life (meaning I didn't even know it, my subconscious was hiding this from me), some dreams made an impact on me. I've dreamt that I was growing breasts in a few seconds as I had my hands on my chest, or that I was simply in a woman's body, and I've even dreamt of having a sexual experience as a woman 2 or 3 times. Waking up from those dreams was a very sad experience as I of course would have wanted them to last longer or to have some sort of control over them. Unfortunately conscious control always made me wake up immediately so I've never been able to fully enjoy these dreams to their full extent.

Still, it's one of those hints that I always chalked up to fantasies but, in retrospect now that I've "discovered" and accepted that I have gender dysphoria, were clear signs that I should have listened to sooner.

[Frank]

Dreams don't often seem to have a noticeable gender for a lot of people, it's like you're one of those Ken dolls with no genitals. Or I am anyway, occasionally have nightmares in which I have to hide breasts which for some reason are hanging in full view. (Let's not analyze that for subconscious meanings...)

[justmeinoz]

Several lately that have been in the correct gender and also with some lesbian romance. Not a lot of sex, but that may change if/when I have SRS.  Nice to have my subconscious tell me I am heading in the right direction.

[Joann]

I had a dream that i fully transitioned. I looked like a younger version of my mother kinda cute but i was frantic over something.

[Kevin Peña]

I always dream that I'm the opposite sex, but it's kind of like a Tom and Jerry sort of thing in that I never actually see my face. Sometimes I actually "borrow" a face from some random girl I saw on the street that day. Basically, I dream of redoing my day as a female.

[Rena-san]

My dreams usually lack gender, and most of the time I play no role in my dreams at all. They are often like I am watching a movie, and I am the camera--not an actual person. Any idea what that means?
The times that I do play a role in my dreams I don't really notice my gender, and others don't either. I have had dreams where I am dressing as a woman, one time I put on a wedding dress! I would love to have this really happen.

If I don't have dreams as a woman does that mean I'm not really suffering from GID?   

[auburnAubrey]

If I don't have dreams as a woman does that mean I'm not really suffering from GID?   

Not at all........ the mind is an interesting thing, especially on a subconcious level.  I just wondered how everyone else had dreams.... looking at the poll results, there is no "one answer fits all".

I find it strange that I don't even really have dreams in which my hair is even long...... but then again, 40 plus years as a guy, I'm sure I have much more ingrained subconcious memories than the 1.5 years of being female.

Although I have had a few more dreams lately about me being out with friends in a dress, or getting dressed as a woman, so I guess I'm getting there.......