Hair grows at the average rate of half an inch per month. This is affected by a number of factors (health, nutrition, genetics, hormones etc). The length in which the strand starts to fall depends on a few of factors. Among these, are the diameter of the hair strand (more coarse hair will take longer to fall) and the wave pattern (curly, wavy, hair will fall quicker).
I have bone straight, medium to coarse hair. It took about 8 months until my hair started falling down instead of sticking straight up. The entire time, I was just patient with it. No trims and hardly any styling. In fact, I started growing my hair out in Sept 2010, and didn't get a haircut until October 2011. When I got a haircut, it still didn't look all that feminine. It wasn't until about January that I finally was looking like I have feminine looking hair length, and my hair grows fairly rapidly.
Anyways, my advice is to just let it grow out. You are going to be so frustrated with it, especially over the next 6-8 months. But it'll be sooo worth it when your hair is helping you pass and you can be all proud that it's yours, and do your own styling and cutting with it that you want!
In the meantime, go and get some pomade or something, spike it, flaten it, whatever. Own what you have and do what you can. Unless you just don't care what you look like in guy mode (I didn't, no harm in that either). However, take care of what you have by shampooing and conditioning it. If you don't take care of it, when it is nice and long it will be difficult to work with, it'll be less shiny (naturally), and it may break / split.
