On Testosterone with no increase in sex drive.

[QuintonJulius]

Hello,
This is my first post and I made my account for a bit of advice or reassurance on this topic.
I'm a 18-year-old Trans* Man and I have been on Testosterone for 7 weeks now. I have noticed a voice drop already, for the past 3 weeks, difference in eating, body odor change and growth below the belt. But I haven't had any difference in my sex drive, at all. Before I started my transition, I was in a sexually active relationship and never thought being pleasured was really that great. About 5 months after coming out and starting my transition I started another relationship. The person I was with was completely accepting of my identity, but again being pleasured wasn't really working out for me. I haven't been touched by anyone since I've started medically transitioning (which I consider taking hormones) and I haven't had the urge to be touched at all. Before Testosterone I would be kissing and touching with people and feel like I wanted to go further but after I did, it just didn't seem worth it at all. I guess I'm kind of looking for someone who can relate or give me advice. I don't get turned on at all while alone and I'm really confused about why that is if I feel like I do want to have sex.

Edited to remove dosage info.

[wheat thins are delicious]

Not everyone has an increase in sex drive once starting testosterone, some actually experience a decrease.   Aside from the way hormones mayb be acting to affect your body, not everyone cis/trans/whoever feels sexual, or is a sexual person.   

[QuintonJulius]

I'm glad to hear that I was expecting the change too soon. I've only been getting a response of the possibility of being asexual. I appreciate your reassurance.

As for the for my identity, I understand why you'd say that. But that's how I chose to identify because as far as my gender goes I identify as trans* but with my sex I identify as male. I haven't gone into a lot of exploration of my own gender so I don't feel comfortable being labelled with any one gender identity. At the same time as seeing myself as male, I am uncomfortable with the definition people associate with the word male, so I choose man instead. I guess I was just trying to be vague. The proper term would be GenderQueer Transsexual.

[Adio]

Give yourself some time.  You're still in early medical transitioning.  Not everyone is a sexual person or has an increased sex drive on T.  Allow yourself some time to figure things out. 

[V M]

 

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[Kreuzfidel]

I've been on T for 4 months and my sex drive only just started going through the roof.  I agree with the others - don't judge yourself as "dysfunctional" or "asexual" just because you're comparing yourself to others.  Your body is not theirs and their bodies are not yours.

[go..ogle]

Hey QuintonJulius,

As an older teen I engaged in what I call "one sided sex" (giving but not receiving) because I felt like it was what men did - have sex. I matured significantly since then & learned that is not the case, it has nothing to do with being a man. Sex has always felt like a chore for me at best I now opt out because there is no reason to put myself through the inconvenience of it all.

I'm now five months on T& this hasn't changed. I'm holding onto the hope that I will develop a sex drive as it is currently affecting potential relationships.

I hope things improve for you with more time on T..but I must say it helps me with my own issue to see someone in a somewhat similar situation.

[kelly_aus]

I just thought I'd mention something that has happened with me recently.. My T level dropped to zero.. And my sex drive went off the charts.. I don't actually think T and sex drive are as linked as many people think..  The biggest sex organ in the human body is the brain after all...

[Susan]

Actually it's the skin

[kelly_aus]

Actually it's the skin

Hmm, given a recent experience, I'll have to agree..

[Arch]

Lots of factors here. Age (you're young), dosage, state of mind, genetics. Could be anything or any combination. My sex drive went through the roof on my fifth day, but I was on a so-called full dose and had had abnormally low T, even for a female (if you believe the lab ranges).

[QuintonJulius]

Thanks for all the comments.
I was kind of worried just because I felt a decrease, but after this I don't feel worried at all. I'm glad I took the time to make this post. 

[Arch]

Not everyone gets a higher sex drive. You have to go with what you get.