Quote from: agfrommd on May 28, 2012, 07:16:32 AM
I was not aware of this thread. I will confess I found it very upsetting. I was aware of Susan's definition of Androgyne - that to be an Androgyne, you need to be "neither distinguishably masculine or feminine." I was aware that this contradicted definitions elsewhere on the Internet, but I wasn't aware how strongly this site felt about cleaving to it verbatim.
It would certainly leave me out. I have lost too much hair to be anything but distinguishably masculine, and my behavior and dress are masculine as well.
Does that mean that in the eyes of this site, regardless of how I identify, I am not an androgyne?
I kind of hoped that based on the number of bigendered, genderfluid, and other genderqueer folk that have made their homes in the androgyne area that some of the more inclusive definitions of androgyne were honored here, but reading the thread that Emerald dug up would lead me to believe that isn't so.
I agree that it appears she is reacting to the use of HRT for cosmetic reasons. Not sure that I know of anybody who has done this. I feel that some gender noncomforming people have used it to help "match themselves'. But heck there are a lot of people and I am sure that some people have done this. I also would wonder, like she does, re: a person who says they identify as androgyne and then say "I want DDD breasts" (unless somewhere else they wanted to appear masculine).
I also don't think she has come into our discussions, and said, "no most of you people are not androgyne according to the definition I picked out, so leave!" Nor has she personally made me feel unwelcome otherwise.
Anyway, I have to admit I just don't like the term. I know people have gone on about how one term or the other is the same to them, but it isn't to me. I guess I like the more political, in your face "genderqueer". Though I don't seek a fight. That said, I strongly disagree with this definition. Honestly, I think that there are probably VERY few people who identify this way will actually really fit this definition. I certainly do NOT. I am at an age, where I cannot do the young unshaved male anymore. It's my brain that's androgyne (to use the word here) *not* my presentation.
In fact, I don't think presentation has much at all to do with gender. There are people who live their whole lives, for many reasons ranging from financial to social, basically stuck in the wrong body. They would never transition, but they would still feel in their hearts that they are that gender.
Androgynous presentation is very common, but might not mean that much about the insides of the person, who might know/ feel darn well that they are clearly male or female.
I do not.
In my mind, I don't really clearly feel like a female. I'm not even too certain re: gender what is it. I have body dysphoria, in that I feel when I look in the mirror (esp. nude) that I am not really this person I see. However, if I see myself in baggy clothes-- and I never understood this til a few months ago. It hides my body.
BTW, that all said, I'm not sure exactly what this is. Is it gender identity "disorder"? Is it on a spectrum of transgender? Is it some separate gender? Currently I am of the opinion that it is on the spectrum. That does NOT make it trans-light. Almost all conditions of humanity are not a or b that are a going towards b, so I don't think trans* would be different. I might very well change my mind on this tomorrow. :-)
I like this definition here for now:
http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Genderqueer(it includes different things like agender, bigender, pan gender, other gender, etc. I think what Susan is talking about, btw, is "agender") Also she said she's open to other subgroups, but that kind of makes my head hurt to be honest.
--Jay Jay