bad trans experiences, bullying and harassment

[Josh]

have any of you experienced any of this or trans phobia? and if so, you willing to share a little? im only asking out of curiosity. if you dont feel comfortable or dont think i should ask this, let me know, its fine. ive had my own fair share of bad experience

[Devlyn]

I'm curious, too, but about you. Have you talked to anyone about your bad experiences? Just putting it out there can be helpful, but not if it causes you to be uncomfortable. Hugs, Devlyn 

[Natkat]

I had alittle this and there.. but generally I think I been lucky,

in school I was bullied alittle for looking like a boy, so I got called boy names and pointed out.
but mostly I didnt think so much about it, it was better than when I was called a girl.
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later one I got in contact with a psyco who somehow felt very angry on me, for some religious stuff,
and he called me ->-bleeped-<--->-bleeped-<-got and wanted me to burn and so on so. he was really sick, but I never heard from him ever since.
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also at one of my friends birthday partys, I was stucked with one of my friends friend, who kept on claiming how extremly girly I was and how she had thought I was a girl, and how we shouldnt sleep together cause I was too femenine and bla bla..
at the evening she noticed I was binding cause she poked me in the side (just out of the blue) and thought I was wearing a corset, and began screaming how gay I was infront of my friends famely..
I got very angry and slapped her twice and leaved the party..
worst outing experience of my life.
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those are my experience I could think about.

[anibioman]

my ex gf's mother was homophobic and transphobia she hatted that her daughter hung out with gay kids and was dating a transexual and forbid her daughter from seeing me. which was a big problem as we are in high school.

[Hayzer12]

I've actually never had a particularly bad experience pertaining to bullying. I've only ever lost one person from my life, and other than that - most don't know that I'm trans. I'm 100% stealth, and 8 months on testosterone. Luckily I go to a university where I can easily go unnoticed by people that once knew me by my birth name and as a female(I wasn't out the first two years of university). My professors are incredibly understanding, and they call me by my chosen name (I will be changing my name this summer or early Fall, so it won't be an issue anymore but they are VERY helpful). The friends that I HAVE told have been completely understanding, and everyone in my family pretty much - though originally homophobic and transphobic - completely support me (with the exception of a couple.. but I have never been bullied or harassed for it)

I would really like to hear what bad experiences you have had though. I am usually incredibly scared because my legal name is my birth name and I am OBVIOUSLY not female looking at all.. It scares me because I know that they'll know, but so far I haven't experienced any horrifying moments. Hopefully I wont.

I mean I pass so much now that even in the littlest towns in TN, old women say what a nice young man I am. An older lady(probably in her 60-70's) said that I looked just like her husband when he was younger. Because of the fact that I pass so easily, I don't foresee me being in any situations that are dangerous or "bad" necessarily. I do see though, how people that wish to not medically transition or whom are Pre-hormones can easily be bashed due to ignorance. Luckily, I have not experienced it, and I am very sad for those who do and will.

[Traivs]

I used to get bullied a lot before I came out as trans for liking girls and being a butch lesbian and stuff some stuff ended up physical but since I can out as trans I haven't really had any problems other than this one guy I know constantly telling me how much of girl I am just cause he knows it bugs me and telling me stuff about his wife saying she wont care cause your still technically a women. It's only one person though the rest of the people who have issues with my transition just stopped talking to me which is fine by me. Though I do wish my brother would get over it and start talking to me again.

[go..ogle]

Most of the crap I have had is gossip, people avoiding/ignoring me. I haven't gotten as much direct insults. The most severe was when a group of people threw something at me. Most commonly though are comments yelled from cars, bold huh? 

Since I'm read as male now I don't get anything other than gossip from time to time. I try to prevent it as much as possible though it's really difficult because my university is TINY.

[Andy]

I have been really lucky (knock on wood), but I have had a couple of "scares." One time I was doing my laundry at the laundramat, and some young teenagers I could see were talking and laughing about me, and I felt a hassling coming on, and I just got the hell out of there, but I could see from the car they actually went back and looked at my laundry in the dryer, I guess to see if they were boy's clothes or not? And I was afraid, but I just managed to escape before they could harass me.

Recently I had a little scare when I was out exploring around, and I stopped to check out this woodsy boat landing place by the river. I think I accidently hit a place where gay guys cruise each other? You could just tell....a bunch of guys in their cars and trucks, each one alone, and WAY too many for randomly in the middle of a weekday. I got the hell out of there real fast, too. Obviously, I am not scared of gay guys in general, but a bunch of rednecks are a bunch of rednecks, and I just did NOT feel safe! Luckily again, no harm. Be safe out there, boys!