Dating - the stuff guys say :D

[Rabbit]

So, I been online trying to date lately... and I am running into some really funny / crazy / perverted stuff guys say to try and "seduce" me. I figured there have gotta be others with tons of little gems to share (and it is pretty funny to read), so this is the thread for it!

The more I chat with guys ... the more I am finding they are kind of...uhh.... well, I'll let you judge for yourself ~_~

Here, I'll start off with an exchange I got today on OKcupid.. (I always have on my profiles that I'm trans, but a lot of guys don't read).

Him~ "hey sexy how u doing? can we hang out? "

Me~ "Hiya, sorry but I'm kind of looking for an older guy "

Him~ "if u want asian experience let me know anytime i luv white pussssssy"

Me~ "Uhhmmm.... I'm a ->-bleeped-<-.... and don't own a cat.... sooooo.... lol"



Here is one from yesterday on okcupid also

Him~ "hi there!! how r u? i just signed up with this so i'm pretty new and trying to figure this out. apparently, we might be a match. you are definitely cute! would love to meet u! let me know if ur interested in meeting. i live in West LA, u?  "

Me~ "Hiyas Thanks You have really nice pictures too I gotta check though... you saw I am trans right? ~_~ "

Him~ "No but I like it.. Wanna exchange naked pix? "

Me~ "o.O uhhh.... no? I'm not that type of person, sorry. "



I am just so curious if these guys ever succeed with these approaches lol

[Kelly J. P.]

 You know, I used to feel like I knew guys pretty well, back in early high school... But these days, I'm always finding out just how little I really knew them.

I still find it hard to believe that guys actually say things like and are NOT trolling, frankly.

I haven't really had guys say those sorts of things to me. I tend to attract the older guys who are actually pretty good at landing dates and stuff... and that usually starts out with a classy statement that I am beautiful. A few minutes into the conversation, and they start to get pretty hard to turn down without being rude! I haven't actually taken a guy up on his offer so far, as I'm not into older guys, but if someone I found attractive tried, it would probably work.

[Rabbit]

I thought I knew guys pretty well too! ... until I became a bit more fem... and then I started seeing an entire new world. Like another artist in the area that I had added because he was in the industry (who is married with 2 kids) was chatting with me (just work stuff). ..and then when he found out I was trans, he became so interested and wanted to hook up behind his wifes back.....

Or all the guys with girlfriends already on dating sites. ..or those who say they are in open relationships....

Or, get a load of this guy from last week (edited out the cussing, not sure if it is allowed on forums)

Him~ "F### me if i am wrong!!!!! u look like a m2f transsexual.isnt it????Wow i like transsexuals.went 3times to sao paulo brazil.F###ed 30 to 40 different ->-bleeped-<-s.by the way u r the 1st one i m seeing who is educated and not prostitute.whats ur name pretty girl?? "

Me~ "lol... uhhhhh... you think telling me you had sex with 30-40 different trans girls is a selling point? Enjoy all the STD's you probably have now...

While I may be educated (in several fields)...you definitely aren't.... we are not a match, sorry. "

Him~ "comon baby reply me!!!!!!believe me or not i love ->-bleeped-<-s more than girls.reply me i m so excited.wow i m feeling lucky lucky lucky......... "

[~RoadToTrista~]

You act too nice, lol. Those guys are creepers.

[JennX]

You act too nice, lol. Those guys are creepers.

This.

I wouldn't have even replied to any of those pervs. 

[Eleanor]

I love that we're supposed to look at "I love ->-bleeped-<-s!" as a statement of acceptance and love. I wonder if these same people message Chinese girls on dating sites saying "hi baby we should totally have sex coz i luv chinks!!!!!"?

[CryssL]

...omg...

[eli77]

Wow, making me so glad I'm gay.

Though to be honest, girls can be pretty creepy sometimes too.

[Dale]

not much IQ level there. Those guys won't catch anything but dust

[Sephirah]

Seems they should have registered at okstupid instead, but got... confused.

Either that or you just discovered what really happens when you give chimps a keyboard.

[Julie Wilson]

I've gotten this kind of stuff in person as well as in emails.  After a while you get tired of it and realize that to a lot of men trans = guy who loves to dress up like a woman so he can have tons of casual sex and give tons of oral sex to lots of random nameless men.

And believe me there are lots of people who are trying to fit that stereotype and they are referred to as trans and transsexual among other things.

Another good reason why being trans is really nobody else's business but mine but I am done with transition and really not that into nostalgia so it's easy for me to say (because it's true).

[=celestica=]

Yeah majority of them are closet gehyz.

But I've actually met a couple guys who were pretty cool, smart, and didn't mnd the trans thing. One was actually educated on it, didn't treat me anything other than female, no creepy weird treatment after.

I guess I got the luck
I wouldn't put I was trans on my profile, seriously.

I didn't and only told them when I thought it was time to let them know.

Like I told one of them when we were talking about genital piercings, because he asked if i ever considered a hood piercing.
Day after i had to tell him that mama ain't got a kitty cat
He didnt care haha.

[dalebert]

Wow, tacky and rather unattractive. At least they gave you very glaring and clear signals up front that they weren't worth your time.

I wouldn't put I was trans on my profile, seriously.

I'm inclined to agree. Maybe you can filter a lot of those guys out by holding that off for a little while. I appreciate that you want to be very open and up front, but it really isn't anyone's business even if you're going on a date. I also imagine that you don't want to waste your time only to suddenly have them react badly but it seems like a bit of a compromise and calculated risk to wait at least until your first date.

[Julie Wilson]

Shooting yourself in the foot by outing yourself on the Internet may seem sensible in the beginning.  I mean a lot of us don't think we will ever pass as our true sex and a lot of us think life won't change that much, that we will always enjoy the company of people who knew us from before, that we have too much going for us to let go and move past the life we lived in prior to transition.

But surprise, surprise.  Many people do find that despite all their doubts to the contrary, they do begin passing... and they realize that the company of people who only ever knew them as female becomes preferable.  We will always have the always trans camp.  People who married before transition, people who have kids...  And hindsight is 20/20... but perhaps before littering the Internet with evidence that you are (in the minds of non-trans people) male, or trans, or a ->-bleeped-<-...  With pictures to identify you with to boot...  Maybe...

Well... 

My experience in retrospect is I wish I had never gone out or met anyone when I was living as "out-n-proud".  Fortunately I never posted pictures of myself on the Internet.  But once I realized I could have more from transition that I initially believed possible... and once I realized that I couldn't continue to live as the token trans woman and that I needed more...

Anyway...  Maybe that's just me.  Me and my silly "issues".

Still... if I were to give advice I would say work more on transition and less on dating.  Take care of your needs first, because you can't really be there for someone else when you aren't really there yet.  I dated a trans woman myself and it was very tiring to have to cater to her constantly, polish her ego and nurture her insecurities.  There wasn't any time left for me to be the woman in the relationship though I was transitioning myself too.  People in the middle of transition tend to be (in my humble opinion) in a place where they should take care of themselves before trying to be a partner in a relationship.

[Katie S.]

i am always up front bout being trans. even though i just started going out as a woman, i dont like when i get talking to a really cute guy, and then scare him off by telling him the truth.

i have had some success with it, dated one for a few months, but it hasnt stuck yet. gotta keep trying though right girls??

[Natalie <3]

I see no point in hiding who I am. Guys and girls can both be creeps. I have been hit on by both and heard some weird lines... Everyone knows what I am both who know me already and those who meet me. I prefer not to waste time dealing with people if they don't already know.

[Jamie D]

... believe me or not i love ->-bleeped-<-s more than girls

When I see "believe me" - I don't.

[Jamie D]

I see no point in hiding who I am. Guys and girls can both be creeps. I have been hit on by both and heard some weird lines... Everyone knows what I am both who know me already and those who meet me. I prefer not to waste time dealing with people if they don't already know.

The "open and upfront" policy is good, but be safe too!

[King Malachite]

Gee with guys like that sometimes I wonder how I can't get a girlfriend  They seem to have the intellect of a cashew.  While my intellect is not too much bigger you would think they would apply a little bit more sense and manners.

[Rabbit]

I wouldn't put I was trans on my profile, seriously.

Ehh, I'm not into the "trapping" game. If I'm going to go out with a guy, I want to know he actually wants to go out with me and what I am (instead of needing to worry he is going to flip out on me when he realizes it).

Here is another one



Him~ "Hey, I like your profile. "

Me~ "Thanks "

Him~ "Hi there beautiful my name is Travis. And I would like to get to know you the real you the woman inside of your soul this is for you.
Let there be many windows to your soul, That all the glory of the universe May beautify it. Not the narrow pane Of one poor creed can catch the radiant rays That shine from countless sources. Tear away The blinds of superstition, Let the light Pour through fair windows broad as Truth And hight as God. Why should the spirit peer Through some priest-curtained orifice, and grope Along dim corridors of doubt, when all The splendor from unfathomed seas of space Might bathe it with the golden wave of love? Sweep down the cobwebs of worn-out beliefs, And throw your soul wide open to the light Of reason and of knowledge. Tune your ear To all the wordless music of the stars And to the voice of Nature, and your heart Shall turn to truth and goodness as the plant Turns to the sun. A thousand unseen hands Reach down to help you to their peace-crowned heights, And all the forces of the firmament Shall fortify your strength. Be not afraid To thrust aside haft-truths and grasp the whole.
Travis :-) "