Not telling close friends you are on hormones

[GhostTown11]

And continuing to transition. I am in a real pickle but I guess you could say this is just proof we are not as close friends as we thought. For some reason, I feel like I can't bring this person closer in my life. It could be because me and her have radically different interests but that has not hindered us before. I think it's because I'm starting my nursing oprogram and she's going to uni for art that made me realize we have radically different life paths.

[Angelique1994]

And continuing to transition. I am in a real pickle but I guess you could say this is just proof we are not as close friends as we thought. For some reason, I feel like I can't bring this person closer in my life. It could be because me and her have radically different interests but that has not hindered us before. I think it's because I'm starting my nursing oprogram and she's going to uni for art that made me realize we have radically different life paths.

does she know ur transgender? if not then u should tell her, but  ik how hard it is to tell ur friends how u are but i told my best friends a year ago and they totally excepted me, it may have taken them a little while to get use to it but now a year later they completely are use to it. but i mean ive been knowing both of my friends for a long time tho. ive been knowing my Bestest best friend for 11 years since 2nd grade, me and her have  so much in common its ridiculous lol. ive been knowing my other best friend for 6 years since 7th grade even tho in 7th grade we didnt get along that much it wasnt till 8th grade we really started hanging out mostly because she started hanging out wit my bestest best friend but now we get along soooo much and we are all really good friends and i am so lucky to have them

[LilDevilOfPrada]

I have told 11 closest people in my life i am and only 1 still is my friend, so yea this whole transition thing has a effect on how people see you and most can't handle it. I say pick the time and person very wisely.

[Nicolette]

I eventually told my business partner (originally an Orthodox Jew, but more liberal now, lol), the closest friend at the time, after a number of months of being on HRT. I think he was relieved, to say the least. He was starting to be drawn towards the fat redistribution in my thighs and elsewere and was getting confused, sexually. He was worried he was turning gay! He's been one of my greatest supports since over the past 17 years.

[crazy old bat]

I'd go with my gut feeling on it and if your lives are growing apart, then it becomes less important anyway.

I was on hrt for two years before I bothered to tell any friends. I did tell my dad and his girlfriend after the first year though. By then, they sort of figured it out for themselves, lol.  I went fulltime at the same time I told my friends which also coincided with my legal name change.

[GhostTown11]

Yup she knows I'm trans. One thing that fueled the waning friendship was that she constantly questioned ad tried to deter me from transitioning at every turn whilst accepting her ftm boyfriend and his transition (now an ex). It really got to me  that blatant hypocrisy and I have not gone out with her  casually in a year.

[Brooke777]

I dont mean to soun harsh, but if you two are no longer close, and you are growing farther apart, what does it matter what she thinks?

[GhostTown11]

I dont mean to soun harsh, but if you two are no longer close, and you are growing farther apart, what does it matter what she thinks?

Because at one point she felt like my sister and we were really that close and we thought we were going to be in each others lives for everything.  It's just odd how that changed.

[Siobhan]

Have'nt told any of mine, dont realy intend to either. They have noticed some things though, comments so far:
Are you getting younger?
Youve lost a lost of weight, where did your muscles go?
your looking a bit gay (this was from a lesbian friend)

Managed to hide my boobs so far cos they are tiny. Really just booblets
ive started getting fat deposits now aswell so I guess they will notice soomer or later.

[GhostTown11]

Have'nt told any of mine, dont realy intend to either. They have noticed some things though, comments so far:
Are you getting younger?
Youve lost a lost of weight, where did your muscles go?
your looking a bit gay (this was from a lesbian friend)

Managed to hide my boobs so far cos they are tiny. Really just booblets
ive started getting fat deposits now aswell so I guess they will notice soomer or later.

I had To start wearing tight sports bras because I got odd looks and I get the younger thing all the time but I'm 17! how much younger can I get lol.

[Siobhan]

Lol yeh im doing the same to squash em down a bit when im at work.
I had 3 different people there who thought I was about 18, was funny seeing their faces when I tell them im 32 lol.. One guy said "you must be doing something right" ah if only he knew lol.

[Brooke777]

Because at one point she felt like my sister and we were really that close and we thought we were going to be in each others lives for everything.  It's just odd how that changed.

It can be difficult to lose someone. If I were you, I would tell her. She obviously still means something to you. You never know how people will react. The one person I expected to reject me was more shocked that I thought it would hurt our relationship. Best of luck.

[Eva Marie]

Are you getting younger?
Youve lost a lost of weight, where did your muscles go?

I've gotten the first two comments, and the other night at the grocery i got carded when i went to buy some beer (i'm almost 50) LOL.... the poor guy looked shocked.

edit: i forgot to answer the OP's question LOL.... my wife knows and my online friends on gender boards know but i haven't told anyone else. I have to wear wife beaters under my shirts now to hide whats going on under there. I'm sure that the people that have not seen me in a while will immediately figure that there is something going on, but the changes have been too slow and subtle for the people at work to notice anything.

[jainie marlena]

Really just booblets

that was so cute. Mine are just booblets also. I might take this from you. I like it.