Swimming and changing rooms?

[Felix]

To be honest, I can't pass anyway and am just fooling myself.
(I don't like the word "pass." It has a kind of pretend quality to it. Is there a different word to use?)

I had to unlearn "pass" as meaning an ethnic person passing for white, so I feel you here. I wasn't able to find any other useful and widely-recognized term or even convenient phrase to substitute, though.

[aleon515]

I had to unlearn "pass" as meaning an ethnic person passing for white, so I feel you here. I wasn't able to find any other useful and widely-recognized term or even convenient phrase to substitute, though.

That's what I have heard the term used before. I don't know of an alternative either. "Present" is another one. But it has problems as well. You can "present" as male (which I do) but not at all be taken as male.

Since I learned it in this other context, I have never seen this as a bad thing. More a survival one.
But not sure that that's correct either.

--Jay Jay