Revised- Sexual Preference for MTF with discussion on Lesbian Roles

[Fer]

Hi Fer,

I added an option for you.

Thanks.

Wendy

Thank you very much Wendy.  I\'ve already voted.

[katia]

i'm 100% lesbian [not sexually attracted to men at all] and so is my gf [also mtf] though we don't believe in roles.  ... it is usually more fulfilling to find a partner of the other role. or as it is succinctly put in the gay community, [two bottoms don't make a top]
... most lesbians i have met do not start out as [tops] as you are expected to be [aggressive], know what you're doing etc. and newcomers don't often have that level of knowledge; yet they develop the skills and authority along the way. it's been described as a [paying your dues] sort of thing. also, you get to learn what the [bottom] will experience.
now if you want to opt out of the whole labeling process, just call yourself a [side]

Katia, I love your writing! 

I will change my vote to "side" but the option to change vote has disappeared.

Wendy

lesbian - neither side

glad you find me amusing wendy.

[GQPAT]

Hey there folks,

I havnt been on in a while but I like this topic so I figured I'd respond!

Although I do identify as pansexual (because I find the term BI too limiting)...my tenancies these days have been towards a dyke identity!  And within that dyke identity I think my "role" could be defined as Femme in the streets, butch in the sheets  In other words, I prefer very feminine style of clothes (although I refuse to shave my armpits/legs) but I love to top in bed...ie: I'd rather be the fister than be the fistee! (TMI I know I know but its a post about lesbianism cmon!!)

Cheers: Patty

[Melissa]

Hi, you tricked us.  You gave some more options (after most of us had already voted) which are more applicable and now we can't change our answers.  Therefore the poll is skewed.

[Wendy]

Although I do identify as pansexual (because I find the term BI too limiting).

Dear Patti,

I am still trying to figure out what "transition" means. 

Urban Dictionary:
Pansexual: Noun: A person who is sexually interested in other people regardless of gender including males, females, transexuals, tansvestites, gender benders, hermaphrodites, intersexuals, androgenous people, and those with sex-chromosome anomaly such as klinefelter syndrome or turner syndrome.

Pansexual was added.

[debbiej]

I voted bi/pansexual. But with a few caveats.

This is all in my imagination since I have only been with one person.

Monogamous.

I can't imagine being with a man unless I had female genitals.

I can imagine being with a woman with or without female genitals.

And I can't imagine living my life without my current soul mate.


Debbie

[Seshatneferw]

Yes, that sounds very much like me too.

I'm strictly monogamous, can't imagine actually being with someone else than my wife.

Fantasising is another matter, though. In that respect the only thing I've been able to rule out is being a gay man, so the current hypothesis is that I'm about half attracted to the opposite sex, about half attracted to women. None of the choices seemed close enough, so I didn't vote.

  Nfr

[Butterfly]

What is a pansexual?    Ive never heard this expression before.  Im straight.


B

[Emerald]

What is a pansexual?    Ive never heard this expression before.  Im straight.

Pansexuality (or omnisexuality) is an orientation characterized by a potential romantic/sexual attraction to people of any sex or gender, including transsexual, transgender, and intersex individuals.

-Emerald 

[Butterfly]

What is a pansexual?    Ive never heard this expression before.  Im straight.

Pansexuality (or omnisexuality) is an orientation characterized by a potential romantic/sexual attraction to people of any sex or gender, including transsexual, transgender, and intersex individuals.

-Emerald 

Of course!  Thank you, Emerald.  I love green too and emeralds are my favourite precious stones.

[gothique11]

I voted bi because I'm attracted to people, not genders. If someone strikes me the right way, I like them -- I find all variants of gender attractive, but relationship wise it depends on the person more so than which category ze is in. But that's just how I work, other people are different and that's perfectly fine.

[Wendy]

Yes, that sounds very much like me too.

I'm strictly monogamous, can't imagine actually being with someone else than my wife.

Fantasising is another matter, though. In that respect the only thing I've been able to rule out is being a gay man, so the current hypothesis is that I'm about half attracted to the opposite sex, about half attracted to women. None of the choices seemed close enough, so I didn't vote.

  Nfr

Nfr,

If you were to become "all the way" MTF and you stayed with your wife then you would be considered a lesbian.  That concept confused me and is one of the reasons for this thread.

W

[tinkerbell]

What is a pansexual?   

Hmmmm....that is when you are attracted to pans.    >

tink

[Seshatneferw]

If you were to become "all the way" MTF and you stayed with your wife then you would be considered a lesbian.  That concept confused me and is one of the reasons for this thread.

I'm not so sure about that -- like I said, I'm also quite capable of getting a kick out of heterosexual fantasies both ways. It's just that right now (and for the past several years) I can't imagine getting involved with someone else for real. As whatever's left of the boy I used to consider myself, I am rather strictly straight; as the girl I've started allowing myself to be I suppose I'm bi, although very strongly committed to a lesbian relationship.

But yes, I'm more than just a bit confused too. It's not all that straightforward to combine the traditional labels for sexual orientation with a non-mainstream gender orientation.

  Nfr

[Emerald]

I'm more than just a bit confused too. It's not all that straightforward to combine the traditional labels for sexual orientation with a non-mainstream gender orientation.

  Nfr

The terms 'gynephilia' and 'androphilia' are increasingly used in reference to the sexual orientation of transgender and intersex individuals, because the terms 'homosexual' (same-sex attraction) and 'heterosexual' (different-sex attraction) can be unclear and confusing.

Gynephilia is the romantic and/or sexual attraction to adult females.
Androphilia is the romantic and/or sexual attraction to adult males.

Androphilia and gynephilia are often preferred in the transgender community, because rather than focusing on the sex or gender of the subject, the words only describe the object of attraction. A third common term describing sexual orientation is 'bisexuality', which like androphilia and gynephilia, has no indication of the subject's sex or gender identity.

-Emerald 

[Seshatneferw]

That still doesn't quite cut it, in the sense of giving one label that is sufficient. A mix of gynephiliac and heterosexual might be pretty close, though.

  Nfr

[Donna]

As I am right now I would be considered a lesbian, now what the future brings could be another story. I'm not sure if transitioning will change how I feel about the "Sexs". I am attracted to females much more than I am to males both physically and emotionaly. I hope this makes sense to anyone one other than me
Hugs to all Donna

[melissa90299]

Not sure if I can be of much help here.  I did not vote because there was not an option for my sexual orientation, asexual.

I am trisexual. When it comes to sex, I will try anything!

[tt jamie]

I am not interested in females sexually but if it was to come up no pun intended lol well hmmmm mabe It could  be fun.  but really no interest there!  and im not sure i would no how hehehe xoxoxTT

[melissa90299]

I am not interested in females sexually but if it was to come up no pun intended lol well hmmmm mabe It could  be fun.  but really no interest there!  and im not sure i would no how hehehe xoxoxTT

Somehow, I find the notion that a woman woudn't know how to make love to another woman incomprehensible.