Hello from Switzerland

[lesnik2005]

Hi everyone

I have been using/reading Susans forum for awhile now and today I just would like to introduce myself little bit.

I am Thai living in Switzerland, turning 31 yrs old soon and not yet trans. When I was young, I always wanted to be a woman. And I could dress up like a girl from time to time. But life turned to be something else, after I met my first gay boyfriend after high-school. I started to live as a gay and believed it was the right thing for me. Now I am living with my second gay boyfriend. We have been together about 7 years now. Everything is fine, only sex is not as good as before anymore. And here you go, about 1-2 months ago I started to realize that something is missing, something is not right (nothing to do with sex). I would like to be a woman! I would like to pursue my old dream, before it is too late. What do you think? Am I insane? Or do I need a psychologist? 

I will be starting hormone therapy as of next month (Androcur + Progynova). I am now also saving money for face contouring surgery in Korea end of next year.

However, I have a bad conscience for not telling my boyfriend about my transition. Indeed, I am planing to tell him by the end of this year. I don't want to tell him earlier because we are having a big trip together in November, and I just don't want to spoil this plan yet. Another worry is about my job. I am working in the office and don't need to encounter any customers. But though I am quite worried if my boss and other people can accept my new life. 

Thank you Susans, thank you everyone for this great and helpful forum, and thank you for listening!!!
Kind regards
Lesnik

[Catherine Sarah]

Hi Lesnik,
A big Aussie welcome to Susan's family. Being TG is such a vast and Miltie dimensional sphere to live in, there is nothing at all wrong with you. You are certainly not insane by any means. A therapist would be a good idea though. May help in making sense of some of your thoughts in a balanced and meaningful way.

As you are contemplating telling your partner later, be sure you don't leave any tell tale signs about. Empty drug packets, open browsers etc. There a heap of things that could cause suspicion. Whether this sits with you well or not is your decision. You may wish to think about how your partner were to find out by mistake. How would a breakdown in trust affect your relationship.

I know my stealth, even though for a supposedly good ulterior reason, destroyed whatever trust we did have. But that's another story.

I assume you are under medical supervision for your HRT? As for your work situation, you may need to check the industrial legal system in Switzerland regarding discrimination in the work place, and see what is available regarding education programmes for the uninitiated.

Look forward to hearing more about you in time to come, but in the meantime, be safe, well and happy.

Lotsa huggs
Catherine

[lesnik2005]

Thank you Catherine for your reply!

It's going to be a self-medicating HRT. I have consulted with a friend, who is working as pharmacist, and ordered this medication from her as well. I will see, maybe I will tell my house doctor about my HRT too.

Transgender's in Switzerland are legally protected and can convert their gender to Mrs./Miss also. What I am afraid of at work is only the reaction of people and mobbing. However, I will talk to my boss and HR before completing my transition.

Are you living in Australia? I will be traveling to Sydney and Melbourne with my boyfriend in November. So exited about the trip, but sad that I will have to tell him about my transition on the last day of the trip!  I feel like ruining his life... but life is too short, I have to get my dream come true too... Hopefully I am not too selfish.

Best regards from Switzerland
Lesnik

[gennee]

Hi Lesnik and welcome to Susan's. Catherine said everything that I wanted to. Congratulations as you transition.

[lesnik2005]

Thank you gennee! 

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[Devlyn]

Hi Lesnik, it's nice to meet you! I live near Boston, we have friends here at Susans from all over. We're glad you found us! Hugs, Devlyn

[Catherine Sarah]

Hi Lesnik,

WOW. Coming to Oz in November.Sure be glad to meet up, but if that is awkward, I understand. There's a few girl here we could make a dinner or whatever of it. At least a harbour cruise. You can't visit Sydney without a harbour cruise.

I don't know how aware you are of the dangerous nature of HRT drugs, even though they may be prepared by a Pharmacist. Tell your house doctor, so at least he can arrange blood tests to ensure everything is in balance and reacting accordingly. HRT can kill.

It's often been said, us TG's are the most selfish people in the world. Sometimes we have to be due to the overall lack of understanding. As you said, you have a dream too.

Keep in touch and let us know how you are coping, and in themeantime, be safe, well and happy.
Lotsa huggs
Catherine

@gennee, Sorry hun for stealing your thunder. Love. Catherine

[lesnik2005]

Hi Lesnik, it's nice to meet you! I live near Boston, we have friends here at Susans from all over. We're glad you found us! Hugs, Devlyn

Thank you Devlyn for a warm welcome!  Boston is a very lovely city... I was there once, but still hoping to go there again.

Cheers, Lesnik 

[lesnik2005]

Hi Lesnik,

WOW. Coming to Oz in November.Sure be glad to meet up, but if that is awkward, I understand. There's a few girl here we could make a dinner or whatever of it. At least a harbour cruise. You can't visit Sydney without a harbour cruise.

I don't know how aware you are of the dangerous nature of HRT drugs, even though they may be prepared by a Pharmacist. Tell your house doctor, so at least he can arrange blood tests to ensure everything is in balance and reacting accordingly. HRT can kill.

Hi Catherine

Surely I will be very happy to meet you and your friends  We will be in Sydney between 27th Nov - 2nd Dec. My flight has already been booked awhile ago. I will send you a private message with more details 2-3 weeks before departure, so we can plan a meeting. Am so excited!  Let me know if I can get you something from Switzerland, chocolate? 

Btw, I will consult my doc for HRT. Thank you for your advice!

Warm regards from cloudy Switzerland
Lesnik

[Jamie D]

...It's going to be a self-medicating HRT. I have consulted with a friend, who is working as pharmacist, and ordered this medication from her as well. I will see, maybe I will tell my house doctor about my HRT too.

Transgender's in Switzerland are legally protected and can convert their gender to Mrs./Miss also. What I am afraid of at work is only the reaction of people and mobbing. However, I will talk to my boss and HR before completing my transition...

I can not speak to the laws in Switzerland, but a self diagnosis and self-medicating is dangerous, even for the most educated person.  At the very least, you should consider speaking with a therapist about your gender dysphoria.

[lesnik2005]

I can not speak to the laws in Switzerland, but a self diagnosis and self-medicating is dangerous, even for the most educated person.  At the very least, you should consider speaking with a therapist about your gender dysphoria.

Hi Jamie D

I will certainly consult with my doc. Thank you for your advice! 

Cheers
Lesnik