Quote from: Adam1 on July 04, 2012, 09:42:58 PM
I think cis women have had it worse, for longer, and that mtf's mostly contribute to being used in the sex industry as to where that's not always the case with cis women.
Wat? O_O
Um... women have the freedom to sell themselves into porn or prostitution all day, every day and yet they are never objectified in the same way that M2Fs are because consumers and cis people don't see women as being men.
But consumers do tend to see M2Fs as men and porn seems to solidify it for them, that M2Fs are really just men. Men have said (often) that they are into M2Fs because M2Fs are men, like the same things as men, have the same sex-drive as men, that M2Fs aren't over-sensitive like women, are easier to get along with, relate to, know how to give the best head because they know what they would like when receiving fellatio (oral sex on a penis).
I have been objectified as a female and it felt way better than being objectified as a M2F. Being objectified as a M2F equaled being seen as a man in a girl suit.
People will sell their bodies as long as they can in whatever manner is available for them to do so.
In varying degrees a M2F is a male who transitions to female. Some of us act a lot more male than others and really it is a curse of our biology. Cissexual people believe that a man is a man because he is born male. Lots of Cissexual people believe that a M2F is a man who wants to be a woman. There is some truth to their belief (in varying degrees). I know that a lot of us who transition tend to have a much more male sex-drive. I know I was guilty of it. I also talked about sex a lot more than a woman would have, talked about sex and how it was affected by HRT. Talked about sex after SRS. To most Cissexual people, my talking about those things was proof that I am and will always be a man who wants to be a woman.
But what most Cis people don't realize and will never understand is that I never wanted to be a female. Somehow I always just was and the only way I could be normal and enjoy life was to transition to female. My body was at odds with my being and that created a life that was at odds with my essence. And if I could have just been normal I most certainly would have just been normal I would have taken medication or had surgery to be normal because that was all I wanted. I just wanted to feel right and to be able to successfully interact with other people as myself.
But instead a cosmic joke was played upon me when I was born. And since beginning transition in 2000 the one thing I have learned (if anything) is to never seek acceptance. Not from Cis people, not from trans people. Not from anyone. Given the opportunity no one will give you a fair shake. Given the opportunity no one will recognize you for who and what you are. I can't transition other people. I can't change how other people think about me in their minds. So for me transition will be about never giving anyone the opportunity to judge me as something other than what I am.
It doesn't matter what any M2F does, whether she sells herself in the porn industry or whatever... People will never be able to accept trans men and women on any legitimate level. People may be nice and people may try, but human beings cannot understand what they cannot feel. And we will always be a conundrum to them, one that they think they understand when in reality they haven't got a clue. And we are all different. Will I ever meet another trans woman who is really like me? And even if I did meet her, would I still be able to relate to her a week from now or her to me for that matter, a week from now, a month from now?
I am so tired of trying to be what I am that I have given up on it. So I won't try to be me anymore. Instead I will just be. And I won't ever seek the friendship of another trans woman because I realize how wrong that is now, to seek friendship because of a belief that we share common ground when the reality is that we are all different and a condition doesn't make for any kind of unity.
I think I am finally growing past this thing
And in case you don't understand what I am saying, even M2Fs when they are early in transition tend to think of "stealth" as a dirty lie, as deception. Deceiving men or other people into thinking we are women. What does that say about us? That even we ourselves don't believe we are women? We like to say we are women but it tends to be a response to not being accepted as women. A way to protest. Instead of that if we really consider ourselves to be women... Well... I intend to put my money where my mouth is.
I'm done with the games. It's time to move forward again.
