Quote from: Joanna on April 05, 2013, 02:06:18 PM
Wow..... Thank you. I have reached a stage in my transition now that I rarely worry about passing in public. Occasionally I get paranoid but I think there will always be times when this happens as I am transgender and not genetically female. Even those who transitioned many years ago still feel this way at times. It goes with the territory. There are things that I still want , SRS and a boob job. They will come in time. One thing I have learned is that looks only count for part of passing and feeling truly female. You have to believe in yourself, truly believe you can do it. No matter how many times you pick yourself up and dust yourself off. Keep going. I have never smiled so much, but I have also never cried as much as I have over the past 2 years. Keep at it.
Jo xxThanks Shan. Just like I said above, it's been a fight which isn't over. However it pays off in the end. X
Hi Joanna, I'm having problems with being able to watch youtube right now, but from your photos I know you must pass easily! I'm at about the same stage as you in that I'm having no problem passing either. I can't quite agree with you about occasional paranoia about not passing no matter how long you've been living full time, though. I'll be nineteen months full time in two days and I can't say I worry anymore at all. But I agree with virtually everything else you've said. Belief and confidence in yourself as a woman, along with learning skills that make women, women in public, like dressing right and the art of makeup are both really important. I think if you know you're female you have o learn to use your powers of observation and imitation or mimicry in watching women you admire in person, like girl friends, girlfriends, family members, and even women in film and/or tv etc., then learning to walk, talk, and even understand the way we should use our hands in conversation, spoken and unspoken, your learning curve will be incredible and your ease in passing will grow exponentially. We're all going to have our own styles and I understand that we're different ages, heights, weights, races and nationalities, and we all have things about us we're not satisfied with, but hopefully others that we'd like other people to notice. All these things come with time and self awareness. I think the worst thing any of us can do is to constantly compare ourselves with women we know we're never going to be as pretty as, such as the Victoria's Secret models, but not necessarily be content to stay the way we are, because we all have room to improve. Mind you, this is from a 58 year old woman who, despite my broken back and still needing to lose 15 lbs., feel 21, and have a hard time not dressing like I'm 17! What can I say though, I love being female, wearing cute clothes, nice dresses and hopefully, tasteful makeup. And cute shoes!!! But Joanna, I'm like you in that I smile a lot too, because I'm finally happy, and I haven't regretted transitioning for even a moment since the day I walked out my front door for the first time knowing I would never be a male impersonator again. Hugs to everyone, and God bless us all! We deserve it! Mira
