sexuality

[sally1990]

I'm just wondering if its me or other trans woman parents , my dad /brothers are very masculine and they have come to terms with me being transgender better than expected, but my dad keeps like saying "theres a girl for you" or he like indicates that I should try and get with my gfs who come over to my house, I have explained to him I have a long distance bf and I'm happy and I am into guys, but its like a huge deal and I just don't understand how they can kinda accept that I'm going to be physically a woman but sexuality its like this just annoying backlash. And Yes I do realize that eventually they will come to terms with it, but I'm curious to see if other people have this issue at few months into transition. 

[GhostTown11]

Totally, my grandma doesn't seem to get that I've always liked men and, for the forseeable future, will always like men. I just ignore it and move on, people get used to it.

[sally1990]

ya, I guess they will just have to get use to it , I just kinda found it weird how they accepted me being trans and going on hormones and talking about srs to the family, but like as soon as I mention my bf its like what are you doing , your suppose to like girls, personally doesn't make any sense to me but w/e

[eli77]

Huh, I got exactly the opposite. My dad and sister had a hard time believing that I'm gay, and kept expecting me to change my mind, or saying that after I got further into transition my sexuality would change. I guess trans AND queer was too much for them to process or something. But as long as they are accepting, they'll get used to you eventually.

[Laura26]

dad keeps like saying "theres a girl for you"

My Mum said "you just need to find the right girl" when I came out to her.  I then did an epic rolling of my eyes

But seriously, in my Mum's case it was less about my sexuality and more about her wanting the typical life path for me.  I'm sure she imagined me growing up and getting married, having kids etc etc.  So in my Mum's case I think it was more about her wanting me to fulfil the dreams she had for my life.

I do sympathise with my parents over that tho.  They never saw my transition coming, so when I came out to them I did basically shatter all of the future they were assuming I'd have.

It is funny tho isn't it, your parents think that they can tell you what your sexuality is.  It all seems to be part of that 'parent knows best' type dynamic - which is true in a lot of places, but not much when it comes to transition.  I certainly found that dynamic difficult to deal with as I felt like they weren't truly listening to me over certain things.