My wife, 20+ years post-op, while attracted to women in her younger days, sex never did anything for her. In fact with women they could make love literally for hours before having to stop because one or the other would be too sore. She was mostly unable to orgasm without first getting deep into fantasy land. She never hated her boy-bits just sometimes wished they weren't there to start with. After she came out and started living full-time her first experience making love as a woman clinched it for her. (btw-she did have some limited experience w/males before that) Head exploding orgasms she called it. It definitely made sense to loose the dangly parts. For years after SRS even better head exploding orgasms occurred.
Her and I were quite similar. Sex never did much for me after my early 20's. I was only attracted to women sexually. Did try experimenting w/guys as part of my transition test runs back then but nuttin. Actually living out that fantasy was not the same. Much like my wife sex w/females could go on for quite a while before I could orgasm. Over the years it got to the point the only way I eventually could was to imagine I was the woman.
Perhaps there is a similar thread running for Jill? As a male there is a ton of pressure on you to have a g/f. Plus the "This will cure me" factor. If she is on HRT the added sexual boost from T is no longer there. (A big part of me talking myself out of transition years ago). What was thought to be a sexual attraction was likely envy mixed with T. Yet not turned on by guys. But still in love.
My wife is only sexually attracted to guys. Me? My best guess is currently asexual as I struggle with this bout of GID. Neither of us know for sure what our feelings will be if/when the day comes I need to be Joanne most to all the time. We have a 30+ year history together. She cannot imagine being able to live with another human besides me. (believe me, it takes a special person to do it!
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