T date on Tuesday!

[Josh]

I have an appointment with my doctor to talk about/start T on Tuesday. My fiancée is coming with (I think she's more excited about the journey than I am! ) but just like many other guys and posts before me the only thing I'm truly scared/nervous about is emotional/psychological changes... Especially while being in a very serious relationship with the girl I am going to marry. Advice? Experience? Etc.?

[Zac]

I remember that feeling.. seeing as I just turned one month on T today. My fiancee came with me to show her support and she's actually the one who gives me my shots. It's considered a bonding experience for us and I wouldn't trade it. Emotionally, I have changed a little to the point where I'm not angrier, I just express my anger differently, if it makes sense. To keep from arguing with her, since I seriously want to marry her and soon, I just take a deep breath after any outbursts that may slip out and reapproach the situation calmly and talk it out. Communication is key. If you feel you have to take a step back before you can talk, do so. Remember, she's going on a journey too as you transition, especially if she's there for the long run. Make sure you've got her back as she has yours.

[eVan24]

I wish I had advice but I'll be in the same boat. I probably won't be starting T for awhile but her and I talk about it often. Her biggest fear is that when it comes down to everything she won't be able to be in a full relationship with a man and mine is of course that I will change too much, psychologically, that I will lose the thing that she loves the most in me. But we will be growing and our opinions will change about certain things (that's life), however I think that if you want to keep something bad enough, you can, especially when it's something mental (like sense of humor or something along those lines). It's definitely going to have to involve LOTS of communication and listening. I definitely think my fiancee is more excited than i am since she brings up the idea of me be in T daily. 

[Josh]

Yeah we talk about it a lot too and have honestly covered everything. I tell her one thing all the time, that I want her more than I want T, if it were to ever come down to that (it being too much for her to handle) but I doubt it would be like that.

[shean R]

First off congrats on the appt.  I am just 3 months on T so I too remember the beginning, I am not sure it is something we will ever forget.  I too have a wonderful woman in my life who has identified as a lesbian for all of her adult life, so this is very new and different for her as well.  She is extremely supportive, our bodies are just a vessel what really counts is what is in our hearts, mind, and soul.  We did talk a lot about the transition, but now we try to not overwhelm our conversations too much with the transition, we have trans free time and just be sure to take the time to continue to concentrate on the other aspects of our relationship. 

The changes that I have noticed for me have all be really positive, some may be because of the T itself but some are due to the changes that I see happening to my body and feeling like finally my body is getting in line with the rest of me.  Also starting to see glimpses into what my future holds for me is exciting.  I am much calmer, there is a peace inside of me that I have never experienced before.  My sex drive has increased a lot, and I do find that I don't feel the need to talk about my emotions as much as I used to.  I am much more energetic and happy. 

Good luck with your appt. for all of us the journey is individual, we all walk it in our own way at our own pace.