ACCEPTED AS FEMALE

[SUMMERWINE]

i totally believe in live and let live and dont want to go over the much debated subject of what should and shouldnt be removed as far as genitalia but what im interested to know is does a woman have to look totally female to be accepted as a female. i can only go by my own feelings that my body is wrong and i want srs but im not transfixed on having a female look with dresses ect id go for more a tomboy, androgen sort of look as it will take time to soften out the male outer but defiantly identifying as female with hopefully female genitalia.

[crazy old bat]

I personally rarely ever wear a dress as I hate my legs as many other women do. I do however wear makeup, jewelry and fairly form fitting clothing as I have no wish to appear androgynous(not that there's anything wrong with that).

I think it really depends on what gender cues you give off to people, most can overlook one or two things so long as there are other cues that fit into place for them.

[Asfsd4214]

No, what you wear, makeup, etc, these are all personality expressions. They won't make much of a difference in if people truly interpret your gender as male or female. If you look and sound female, but dress masculine and don't wear make up. Worst case scenario they might think you're a lesbian.

[SUMMERWINE]

just not male would do. i think my big thing is body dysphoria which doesnt allow me to express myself as a woman properly.  id be happy accepted as a lesbian/butch female if thats what suited my build i think acceptance from others would be easier. once they know u as female then i think it can take a lot of the pressure off.

[noleen111]

I am totally the opposite..

I am really girlie girlie...  love makeup, shoes, dresses etc... I conformed to the female role really well.. I got my ears pierced (two holes in each ear).. and my navel..I wear a lot of high heel shoes.. and pretty dresses etc..

not to be accepted as female.. but because when exploring my femininity.. i discovered that liked those things.

being accepted female.. is also you attitude to the world.. I think the following applies . walk into a place like you own it.. have the confidence to be a girl and regarded as one..Then I dont think it would matter if you wear dresses.

I am a proud lipstick lesbian

[JoanneB]

So much depends on the persons physical features and body language. In my case of 6ft tall big frog hands, super extra large feet and deep voice I prefer presenting clearly and as unambiguously female as possible. Like Noleen, I also very much enjoy girlie girl. Skirts, dresses, nails, hair, makeup, accessories all add to helping me feel perfect. I think I've been "sir'd" only once in the past two years of doing part-time and that while was in jeans.

[Kadri]

I think what you are talking about here is passibility as female rather than acceptance as female. Once you pass as female, your choice in what you wear or what you like doing probably doesn't matter very much at all as far as others' acceptance of you as female is concerned.

Acceptance is a different matter altogether. You can be as girly and passable as possible and some people still won't accept it if they know your past. Not disclosing your past gives you the freedom to be any kind of woman you want without people judging how it as male-like behaviour, but it also denies you the freedom of taking openly about your past....very difficult if you don't mind your past and wish to have ongoing connections with it.

I pass most of the time (I think) with strangers, but many people who knew me from before will probably never accept me as female, I can tell it from their body language and the way they treat me differently from the other women. It isn't manifest in any negativity, fortunately, but it still gets me down when i notice it. Then I wonder if I should move away and leave all my past behind. Then I would gain true acceptance from everyone, but I'd have to lose a lot of things.

[Stephanie_b]

Well passing and acceptance are #1 on my list.  That's what matters to me, but I won't conform to any kind of expectations of what a typical girl is supposed to be.  I'm just me and happen to be quite a girly girl, naturally.   

The hard part is trying to act like a guy, and I just don't try very much anymore; I'm a girly girl even in guy mode.