Getting Read Moments after FFS

[NCAmazon]

Ok, so I'm 2.5 months post op from my FFS with Dr Z.  What I have noticed from being out and about is that generally in public I tend to flow and blend with society without causing much of a stir or getting stares that I used to.

I am 6'2" so that will get me second looks a lot.  But for the most part I'm getting respect and not many second glares as I walk in public. A good thing.

Last night I was walking back to my car around 11:30 PM in a downtown bar district. I was going to take the quite street, but I thought why not I'll take the crowded road.  There were a lot of drunks.  So I walk past this Guy and loud drunk girl and I have a smile on my face, but don't glance hard to show I'm friendly but not trying to hide.

They stop and let me past them and I sense them taking a extra look at me for a bit.  I walk past and about a minute later I hear them talking and I think I hear from the guy "At first I was sure he was a woman"  I'm not sure if I was hearing things but thats what I thought.

So its still early in my FFS recovery at 2.5 months  but to get that comment does suck!  FFS in many ways will make you a prettier transsexual, but people will still sometimes scrutinize and see you as a man.

It just sucked that the guy referred to me as he. I would have been ok if he said "Thats a transsexual".  I would have been ok being referred to as a different type of woman, but not a guy in a dress.

My height does get me extra scrutiny at times.  Anyone else experience this after FFS?  It shows FFS is a great improvement but not the magic cure. I'm looking for ways to get my confidence back?  Any tips would be great?? 

[Tristan]

Yeah that can happen. I know I even get sir every once in a while. I think month 3-6 is when things really start to come together

[rachl]

Yeah, I bet it hurts like hell, especially since one reason for FFS is to decrease the probability of events like that.

I guess what I have to say is that even FAAB's get that sometimes. It's hurtful no matter what, but don't necessarily chalk it up to them clocking you...and they were drunk idiots.

*Hug* I know it would hurt me a lot, too.

[AbraCadabra]

Humph, seems something that will happen when and if it happens.
In any case, over the phone most always with me, so I try to not make it a big deal. But then I'm older and maybe people are less 'threatened and curious' about me?

I usually make light of it and then say: "Thank you guys, for the promotion..." and giggle.

Not sure if it will work for you, I did for me, - when it was worth a response in the first place.

Axélle

[NCAmazon]

Thanks for the boost. I am young and in the past got hit on a lot by guys who knew I was transsexual and thought I would be easy.

I saw an article about the World's most beautiful transsexuals pageant and heard that even after $100k plus surgeries the top contestants still get the occassional "Thats a man" comment. So its about acceptance and self love.

This was an article about Cassandra Cass and Maria Roman two georgeous transsexual divas. 

[Hikari]

Well people say anne coulter and lady Gaga are men in dresses too. I find it most distasteful but if ggs get this sort of rude comments then it is doubtful that a tg person could totally avoid it. In fact, I have heard ->-bleeped-<- being thrown around many times as an insult to women that the insulter knows are not. Much like how some guys reference homosexuality as an insult.

[AbraCadabra]

It seems to be an age thing as I suggested, as I NEVER been call either a ->-bleeped-<- or man in female cloths... at least not in my face.
Though some that still like my transition to make a MAJOR point of issue in their life (much better than the "Bold & the Beautiful" and hair dressing gossip of the more usual kind) would tell me: "You always will be the man you were to me..." she had a crush on me, being married to a weedy hairdresser who ALSO had a crush on me... being gay and married to her – and VERY good Christians both of them....
Folks like that have a tough time just to handle their own life's issues, son living with them yet again, substance abuser, unemployed at 30, never has a job that lasted. Likes living of others by steeling and lying, etc. I mention this, as opinions from such folks are worth ->-bleeped-<- for all I can tell, and it's good to remember this at times.

Axélle
PS: she just also had a boob-job re-do and will have lots to say about mine --- EVER so juicy, eh?

[Nicolette]

Thanks for the boost. I am young and in the past got hit on a lot by guys who knew I was transsexual and thought I would be easy.

I saw an article about the World's most beautiful transsexuals pageant and heard that even after $100k plus surgeries the top contestants still get the occassional "Thats a man" comment. So its about acceptance and self love.

This was an article about Cassandra Cass and Maria Roman two georgeous transsexual divas.

In this case, it is beauty in the eye of the beholder. Sometimes less is better. A natural born women spending $100k plus on surgeries would probably also get "accused" of being a man. Anyone spending that much is not going to end up looking natural. Judging from their photos, they don't. It's also about voice and mannerism. Listening to Cassandra Cass' voice.. No comment.