Hi GreenTea,
First of the Aussie contingent to weigh in and offer a big Aussie welcome to Susan's family. There's nothing wrong with crazy cats, they can be such fun.
If you're concerned about yourself, a good gender therapist is worth their weight in gold, for what they can reveal in you. Good thing is there's no rush to this journey, you can go as fast or slow as you wish. No deadlines to meet.
There's a mountain of resources, information and friendships to make, so jump right in. Look forward to hearing more from you in time to come, but in the meantime, be safe, well and happy.
Lotsa huggs
Catherine