Re-introduction

[kristin?]

Started posting on here around last August, I was finally coming to terms with my GID, and I came out to my girlfriend of 10 months (at the time). At first she seemed fine, with it, but after a week I found out that she hadn't been eating for days because she was so upset about it, and that she just couldn't be with me if I went through with it. So I told her it was fine, that she was more important to me than anything, and being with her was all I needed. I still thought about transitioning every day, but I kept it to myself.

I had just recently started coming to terms with the things I wouldn't be able to do while with her (asked her to marry me this past valentine's day, she said yes). I thought everything was great between us, and I'm not going to go into details (at least not now), but yesterday morning she ended it, out of nowhere. Told me she didn't feel the same way about me I did about her anymore, there was stuff she still needed to in her life and that I'm a great guy, she still cares about me, etc.

I was devastated, spent the whole day with a friend, came back and told her I was fine and I felt the same way (I lied), and now I'm going straight into transition preparation.

Which is going to be very difficult since I'll have to move back in with my super-religious parents, to whom I am the only son of 4 kids :\

Anyways, great to meet you guys (again) and I look forward to (somehow) making this journey with you

[Catherine Sarah]

Hi Kristin,
A big Aussie welcome to Susan's family. Good to see you are in reasonably good spirits considering the ordeal you have been through. Maybe later when you look back on all the events, you may be thankful for some.

Hope your parents are comfortable with the definition of 'unconditional love'. A basic tenant christianity is built on I believe. I hope they are able to practice it.

Now that you have a clear road ahead of you, you may be able to start seeing where your journey will take you, to being the person you were destined to be.

Keep in touch and let us know how you are coping. It's important at this time when 'things are a little unstable and uncertain.

Be safe, well and happy.
Lotsa huggs
Catherine

P.S. Welcome back, good to have you as family again

[Jamie D]

Kristin, I would caution you about making life-altering decisions at times of personal crisis.

If you have had a therapist in the past, it would be a good time to have another visit.

And remember, you have friends here who understand your situation.

[Ms. OBrien CVT]

[kristin?]

Hi Kristin,
A big Aussie welcome to Susan's family. Good to see you are in reasonably good spirits considering the ordeal you have been through. Maybe later when you look back on all the events, you may be thankful for some.

Hope your parents are comfortable with the definition of 'unconditional love'. A basic tenant christianity is built on I believe. I hope they are able to practice it.

Now that you have a clear road ahead of you, you may be able to start seeing where your journey will take you, to being the person you were destined to be.

Keep in touch and let us know how you are coping. It's important at this time when 'things are a little unstable and uncertain.

Be safe, well and happy.
Lotsa huggs
Catherine

P.S. Welcome back, good to have you as family again

My mother once told my sisters she would rather them be prostitutes than lesbians, I doubt she'll take it too well when she finds out her son is one :\
I mean I'm a Christian too, don't get me wrong, but my beliefs differ from theirs quite a bit
And thanks for the welcome, it's good to be back

Kristin, I would caution you about making life-altering decisions at times of personal crisis.

If you have had a therapist in the past, it would be a good time to have another visit.

And remember, you have friends here who understand your situation.

I made this decision a long time ago, only now am I able to actually go through with it. I have the meeting time and location of a local support group (CATS), and the number of a nearby gender therapist (I didn't think there were any around here!). I did go to a different therapist for several years, but I was too closeted to tell even him about any of this. I am comfortable around him though, I'll probably see him first just to get a professional opinion.
My best friend knows, and my ex-fiance knows (she even gave me some of her clothes when I moved out yesterday  ) and my little sister knows, and they're very supportive, and I know you guys will be too, and I know I'm going to live and learn a lot here. I feel like a huge weight is lifted off my shoulders, I actually feel motivated to move forward in life, and it's a great feeling

[gennee]

Welcome to Susaan's, Kristin. I'm sorry about the breakup. You have much support here so don't be a stranger.

[Catherine Sarah]

Hi Kristin,

Thank you for the update. Good to hear your 'ex' and little sister are on your side.

I think when dealing with your Mum, she really needs to know, ->-bleeped-<- is a well documented MEDICAL condition, governed my major factors as genetics, hormones, environment etc, and that you had ABSOLUTLEY no control over, in any way, shape or form.

It's also important to keep the explanation as simple as possible. We are talking about ->-bleeped-<- and not your sexuality. Two completely different things. Your sexual preferences have nothing to do with what you are attempting to tell her about your gender. And if your mother brings it into the discussion you may need to politely and respectfully remind her that sex is all about what's between you legs, gender is what's between your ears. And we are talking about the latter not the former.

Hope everything goes well for you Don't be a stranger, we are here for you.

Be safe, well and happy
Lotsa huggs
Catherine 

[Devlyn]

Hi Kristin, nice to meet you! I hold down the Boston end of things. See you around the site! Hugs, Devlyn