My checklist. Please comment.

[suzifrommd]

Therapist suggests presenting as a woman for an outing and seeing how it feels. I put together a checklist and prioritized each item "Critical", "Important" and "Might help". (Yes, I did used to be an engineer and I am kind of treating this as an engineering project).

I'm planning to go informal. I've always dressed as a shorts and t-shirt guy, so I'll start out being a shorts and t-shirt kind of gal. Already wear only women's shorts (a long story) and any of my t-shirts will do.

Here's my list. Did I leave anything out? Anything should be a different priority? Any other ideas?

Critical:
* Wig (am 50 years old, too many bald spots to use my own hair)
* Make-up (Will probably skip eyeliner, eye shadow, mascara, but need something to cover up whisker shadow).
* Breasts (How? Small breasts probably won't do, since I'm pretty tall and I want them to be evident and not get lost in my t-shirt).
* Unisex or feminine shoes. (Might buy some white athletic shoes. Could wear them as a man without raising eyebrows.)
* Remove exposed body hair.
* Feminize eyebrows. (Tweezing?)
* Some way to avoid crotch-bulge.

Important:
* Dangly earrings (I hear you can clip something on that lets you wear dangling earrings. Noticeable earrings really give a female appearance).
* Fake fingernails (I'm not a fan of polish, but I love natural looking nails. Not claw length, just long enough to be unmistakably feminine.)

Might help:
* Some type of feminine jewelry. Ankle bracelet?
* Lady's handbag
* Sunglasses with feminine frames, if I'm going to be outside.

[Hikari]

I like your strong sense of planning, but you seem to be focused on the tangible and i think it is perhaps 80-90% the nonmaterial things that people tend to notice about other people. Like how someone moves, what they aound like, etc. At least in my own experience I don't note the brand or even style of shoes someone is wearing unless they are a particularly striking person or I have extended contact with them, but I can almost always remember what accent they talk with even in the briefest of encounters.

So it might help to plan things both material and nonmaterial. Otherwise I can't find fault with your planning, I quite approve of planning things out. Do you have a venue for this outing in mind?

[SourCandy]

Tisk Tisk... You missed the most Critical item of all.

* A big old smile. 

Hikari is right though, Try to plan out the nonmaterial things you can do as well.

[crazy old bat]

I think you ought to go with a normal woman's top rather than just any old t-shirt.

[Ms. OBrien CVT]

I think that you have forgotten the most "Critical".

Attitude!

Not a "I am better than anyone else" or "If you don't like it,Screw You".  But more of a "Man, I feel like a woman".



I love this video.  Gorgeous Men!
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[eli77]

This is a bit of a larger project, but voice is kind of critical if you want to be able to open your mouth and be perceived as female.

Also... I guess I'm wondering what your goals are with this. Do you want to be seen as female? Are you okay with being visibly trans? Do you want to interact with people?