Quote from: oviabshe on July 28, 2012, 01:36:22 PM
Hi, I'm Alston. I joined this website last October, and introduced myself as a nonbinary transguy. A lot has happened in my life since then, including me realizing that I was clinging to the nonbinary label even though it didn't really fit, just because I was scared to admit that I was FTM.
I've come home from the college I was at and am now attending classes closer to home, which is sort of a difficult situation for me because I live in a conservative area where people aren't too accepting of anyone different. I've come out to my parents, but they refuse to accept it because they think I'm just confused about things because I have Asperger's syndrome.
When I was away at school, there was a small trans community there, but now I really have no one. I just need people to talk to who know what I'm going through and can maybe help me figure some things out.
I haven't posted much in the past, and I'll have to see if I can open up more now. It's difficult for me to get myself involved in a new community sometimes, but I'll try my best.
Welcome Alston!
There's nothing better in this world than to be a man when you know that's who you are.
We are like a family here, and many of us (including myself) have come through growing up with very conservative families and very conservative places, so please know you are never alone.
I have a parent on the autistic spectrum (she is brilliant, but relationships have been a challenge for her all of her life). Asperger's folks can be - and have - marvelous friends, it just takes extra work for them.
Your parents may be trying to support you and be afraid that you will be hurt if you transition, not realizing how much gender dysphoria hurts, and that it isn't part of any other condition you may also have. For example, many transgender people also have ADHD, are on the autistic spectrum, or have other learning disabilities or brain differences that make them unique and valuable members of society.
It can be really frustrating when people confuse gender identity with your other uniquenesses and dismiss it as confusion or a phase.
Hang in there, and start seeing a qualified therapist if you can. Often the words of an expert holds more weight with concerned or doubting loved ones.
-Maddie
