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Transitioning pre / during / post with job?

Started by Cici415, July 21, 2012, 12:10:13 AM

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Cici415

Sorry for the vague title, but at the moment I am unemployed due to a motorcycle accident, but I am planning on using the settlement money to fund my transitioning. But, right now I am also studying to pass the state exam to get my license (insurance). My case settles around September and I am planning to get the job in August.

I am not sure where to proceed now, I can use my money from my job to fund the transition but I am also concerned for the effects with my work (when it should have no relevance to my co-workers/boss), but I'd love to transition while at work or will I have to be unemployed until I'm finished? I plan on making this job my career and don't intend to switch anytime soon since the location is perfect for me. I really want to transition soon or now.
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MadelineB

Hi Cici415, Hope your recovery from the accident is going well and doesn't leave you with residual pain or disability. Brushes with our own mortality can sometimes help us see clearly what is important to us... and how precious our time on this planet is.

Congratulations on moving forward with your life, including preparing for career advancement, and especially on making it to the point where you feel ready to transition! :)

Some people who intend to spend a great deal of time (or the rest of their career!) at one employer will wait to go to work for that particular employer until after they have transitioned, because they want to enjoy the experience of being "just a woman" or "just a man" to the people that they work with there.

I already loved the company I was working for, and considered my coworkers friends, so I carefully came out, and transitioned, in the company where I worked the previous 9 years. So far it has been great for me, so I don't intend to leave. Of course, many people aren't so fortunate and end up losing their job due to direct discrimination, or have to quit due to harassment.

I wouldn't recommend putting off re-entering the workforce - jobs are precious, good jobs more so. I would recommend being chosey if you can, and pick an employer that is more likely to be supportive of your transitioning or at least provide a safe and non-harassy environment. 

Some but not all transitioning people find the early parts of transition somewhat awkward, and can encounter serious and severe (though sometimes subtle) discrimination when it comes to hiring. So it is better to be employed (so they already know what you can do for them and already formed their opinion of your value to their company, and where you may already have some friends and allies) than to try to find work while your presentation is under construction, when their conscious or unconscious prejudices may make them averse to hiring you.

This is just my opinion and experience. Every one's situation (and location!) is unique.

History, despite its wrenching pain, cannot be unlived, but if faced with courage, need not be lived again.
~Maya Angelou

Personal Blog: Madeline's B-Hive
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Kevin Peña

Get a job and transition when you are financially stable. Also, you don't have to come out until you're ready to do so or when you just look so different that you have to. I recently met an MTF fire captain and she only came out when people on the job were starting to worry that she had cancer because she lost significant muscle mass due to her HRT. Trust me, people aren't all bad and you can be accepted for who you are. I know it's hard, but you should wait just a bit longer since keeping a job is easier than finding one while transitioning.
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