Hi Charlie ,
A big Aussie welcome to Susan's family. It's good of you to drop in and say "Hi". Hope you like it here, and you stay for a while.
You sound as though you have a good understanding of who you are, which is good. Seeing you are at college, you may find support groups there or even student services may have or know of a therapist that can assist you through the labyrinth.
There is a mountain of information, resources and friendship waiting for you here, you just need to jump in and start talking.
Looking forward to hearing more of your story in time to come, but in the meantime, be safe, well and happy.
Lotsa huggs
Catherine