Hi Steph,
My wife and I were just commenting earlier this week about what an incredible and unique relationship we truly have. We know so many couples both gay and straight that are miserable in their relationships. And the fact that we became best friends before we got married was one of the keys to making this work. She knew before we got married that I was Sarah on the inside but I had no intentions of ever getting to this point. And honestly, without her, I NEVER would have even attempted it.
She asked me this week, "Do you think we say 'I love you' too much?" We tell each other this several times a day. I asked if she always means it when she says it to which she replied "of course!" So I told her that "NO! I don't think these words can be shared too often." Being a female too, I can relate to her on a level which none of her past relationships could possibly provide. Her co-workers now grill her on how she can still be connected to me after all of this. She has explained that my soul is what she loves. The physical body is not that important as far as she is concerned. Though on occasion she needs to mourn the loss of her husband, she still will say through crying eyes "I would rather have you this way than no way at all!"
She is the center of my universe and I would lay down my life for her. I know what I've put her through and quite often I see the pain on her face. I now love her on an entirely new level for this very reason. When she sees old photos of me, tears start streaming down her cheeks...but she has never said she regrets staying with me. I know I am blessed...and sure we fight and argue as all couples do. And quite often, the fact that I became a woman is something that is brought up frequently. Yet at the end of the day, we have never gone to bed mad without curling up, telling each other how much we love what we have and how happy we are to have each other. Those are golden rules for ANY relationship so regardless whether we fight over the mirror in the morning or not, we are bonded to each other. And when you think of the big mental differences between men and women, it's amazing that there aren't more same sex couples out there. No one understand a woman like a woman, or a man like a man!
Sarah
