Hi Jen ,
A big Aussie welcome to Susan's family. It's good of you to drop in and say "Hi". Hope you like it here, and you stay for a while.
There is a mountain of information, resources and friendship waiting for you here, you just need to jump in and start talking, if you want.
If the info you are researching isn't providing you with the answers you are seeking, perhaps finding a gender therapist could be more to your liking. At least you are dealing one on one, with someone who understand what you are going through.
Looking forward to hearing more of your story in time to come, but in the meantime, be safe, well and happy.
Lotsa huggs
Catherine