Just when you think you're stealth...

[sneakersjay]

I was at a gay holiday party where no one knows I'm trans. At least I thought. So they know I have kids, and all assume I'm the dad and when my kids aren't with me they are with their mom. (Lots of other people there have kids). So one guy asks if my kids are with their mom this weekend, and I said my former partner was a guy. He doesn't even skip a beat and says, "few relationships survive transition." WTF?!

FTR I'm 5.5 years on T and have passed consistently for the last 4+.

A ->-bleeped-<-ty reminder on top of a lot of other personal crap going on in my life at the moment, that people always seem to know stuff you wish to forget.

Jay

[LordKAT]

I've heard divorce as transition as in a life transition from married to single. It could be the reference though I doubt it.

[Nero]

Like LordKat said, it could be a reference to divorce in general but I also doubt it. Gay couples with kids aren't extremely common, so maybe that tipped him off. Probably most gay guys with kids were married to a woman.

Though it doesn't sound like he read you until you said that. Either he had no idea but it just popped in his head when you said your former partner was a guy (you never know, maybe somehow the way you said it tipped him off). Or he did suspect you were trans (or heard it somewhere) but wasn't sure and the question was to see if he was correct.
Either way the guy didn't clock you for sure on sight. I wouldn't give the encounter much weight. There's always going to be the rare person who clocks us. And LGBT people are more likely to clock us, supposedly.

[Heather]

Have you thought this guy may be trans to? I say that because I've always been able clock trans women or men so maybe this person could too. But I wouldn't let it ruin your day just move on and forget it in the end it doesn't really matter.

[Miss_Bungle1991]

And LGBT people are more likely to clock us, supposedly.

True.

I had that happen several years ago with this one gay dude that was friends with one of my cousins. I just smiled and said: "How did you know?" He talked about some other transchicks that he knew and certain things that he noticed. I didn't care, though. I was more amused by it than anything else.

[sneakersjay]

This guy is definitely not trans.  And who knows, maybe he thinks my ex transitioned.  I'm just going to let it drop.