When did you decide that you needed SRS?

[mementomori]

Haha! Well put!

if you want to get technical women also have ovaries a cervix and a womb  and a lot of ignorant people would argue that you're not a woman unless you have those things , so we should let people define themselves as how they feel and live their lives as they want despite what operation they do, or do not have between their legs

[MadelineB]

I have a date in December, and I got my letter last week... but a recent bout of depression stopped me from being as euphoric as I might have been. i'll probably feel great about it in a few more weeks' time!

Congratulations Kadri! That is exciting and wonderful news. I hope you feel the euphoria soon.

[AbraCadabra]

if you want to get technical women also have ovaries a cervix and a womb  and a lot of ignorant people would argue that you're not a woman unless you have those things , so we should let people define themselves as how they feel and live their lives as they want despite what operation they do, or do not have between their legs

Oh, so now women that had a hysterectomy are than no more female?
Are you QUITE sure WHAT you are saying there?
Sounds way off the wall to me, and actually way out off line.

Axélle

[mementomori]

Oh, so now women that had a hysterectomy are than no more female?
Are you QUITE sure WHAT you are saying there?
Sounds way off the wall to me, and actually way out off line.

Axélle

they still originally had the inner workings before they were removed right? and they dont have a prostate ,  im speaking objectively though this is how some people think , not what i think

i think a woman is someone who lives as a " woman" and is perceived by society as such no matter what her insides are or what is between her legs

[Apples Mk.II]

Can we stop with the real Vs fake pussy, pretty please with a cherry on top? We do what we can with what life has given us.

Let's stick to the original question, and keep away the "woman with a penis is a condemned monster", please.


I have slept less than two hours worrying about the SRS thing again. Being honest, it scares me to death. The first time I was completely aware of the Dysphoria, I entered a state of panic and anxiety about having to chop it down that reduced me to shambles, until I read about the difference between  transexual and transgender and was relieved that it was not necessary to walk until the end of the road, just find the kilometer that satisfies me.

The real issue is that if didn't want SRS, I'd say "->-bleeped-<- it" and would not worry about it. If I am scared is because deep inside I consider it a real option and the way to go in a future. The problem is that it means accepting a lot of other things I am denying and scare me even more. I am obviously not ready for that, but I can't discard it and I am even looking forward to it after mind and body are completely sure.

My hope is that if I choose the final surgery in the following years, it will be because I desire it for myself, and not to conform to society and avoid alienation.

[justmeinoz]

As of late last week, when I realised that I am actually Bisexual ( thanks to working with a new therapist), and had been rejecting men along with my own masculine history.  If I am going to have hetero sex I want to have the option of vaginal penetration.  SRS just feels right for me now.

I have been identifying as a Lesbian, and was prepared to wait another year or so, to see whether I could live Non-OP, or would want only an Orchi.  I figured if I did have a girlfriend, she would be someone who would have to be comfortable with me as I was.

Apples, it really is a case of what is right for you is all that matters.  You can defer for now, and change your mind later.  I just have, and I feel fine about it.

Karen.

[mementomori]

you don't need to have srs to conform to society , most people aren't aware of whats going on in your pants , besides sexual partners

[AbraCadabra]

you don't need to have srs to conform to society , most people aren't aware of whats going on in your pants , besides sexual partners...

...and of course YOURSELF -  if you don't mind me saying so.

Best of luck though,
Axélle

[Kitty_Babe]

I didn't even know what SRS was year ago, think first time I heard about this sort of thing was when I was about 15. I didn't begin transitioning until I was 25, my family, has never, as they do now, never accepted what I did to my body, or my life, even though, they are well aware of how I was growing up.

I finally underwent surgery when I was 29, I would of loved to have really done this much sooner, like at 18ish, but was really scared of coming out to my mother about it. In the end, that proved true anyway,.  I regret having left it so long, as I missed out so much on my youth, I could of lived if I had done the transitioning much sooner. But then families are families, and I put their feeling first for years, until one day I had enough and decided I had to do some thing about it. !

[Dahlia]

. Not because of people that will say "how can you live with that, you will be a monster, who wants a woman with a penis, etc",

That depends on your/any MTF's outlook.
Turn it around and think of women (not AIS) with XY chromosomes and a 'left over' prostate.
Less visible, but still...SRS turns a MTF into a surgically constructed woman, not a ciswoman.

Plus another one: women who are  biological fathers of several children, how about that?

Don't take this kind of 'arguments' and 'opinions' too hard...it's cruel and it comes usually from MTF who try to 'justify' or 'legitimate' their own decesion by dragging others down.

[Apples Mk.II]

Don't take this kind of 'arguments' and 'opinions' too hard...it's cruel and it comes usually from MTF who try to 'justify' or 'legitimate' their own decesion by dragging others down.

Meh, I think I'm going to put what I said on my las post on the first:

Can we stop with the real Vs fake pussy, pretty please with a cherry on top? We do what we can with what life has given us.

Let's stick to the original question, and keep away the "woman with a penis is a condemned monster", please.

At least I have my answer now: "I possibly want SRS, but for when I am ready to accept it, independently of what others may think" Being non binary is a bitch, but at least I have quite clear what's on my mind. And since I will be taking the social security option, I can worry about improving the rest of the body (the "public" part)

Gotta jot this down for the therapist...

[pretty pauline]

I have a date in December, and I got my letter last week... but a recent bout of depression stopped me from being as euphoric as I might have been. i'll probably feel great about it in a few more weeks' time!

I had the same experience Kadri, when I got a date for my surgery, I thought I would feel euphoric, but then as the date got closer I got very nervous, also depression, family members (brothers) asking me, ''was I sure, did I really want to go thru with it bla bla bla, but my Mother and my boyfriend at the time where a great support, kept telling me it was for the best if I wanted to live the rest of my life as a normal woman, the day of my surgery got cancelled that morning till the afternoon, I remember I was given a sedative to calm my nerves, the build up and lead up is the worse, then its all over before you know it. I posted about it before in another thread. I remember going under the anesthetic, it seemed only 5mins but was actually over 5hours, I remember coming around and didn't realize I was done, then being told by my Dad, princess its all done, feeling the pain and packing, it was all over, now the after care and healing, time goes quick Kadri, you'll be fine and things have improved since my surgery over 20years ago, its a great feeling finally being a complete woman, I had other healing problems which most girls don't have now, just girly problems, all part of being a woman, no gain without pain, that goes for getting my ears pierced as well lol,  Iv no regrets, I love my life now as the woman Iv become, best wishes Kadri.
Pauline

[Nicolette]

pretty pauline, thanks for being honest about your SRS experience. Many SRS accounts I read are devoid of emotion and are very clinical. I want to know how you feel every moment, before and after and whether there are doubts or a moment of regret post-op.

[AbraCadabra]

pretty pauline, thanks for being honest about your SRS experience. Many SRS accounts I read are devoid of emotion and are very clinical. I want to know how you feel every moment, before and after and whether there are doubts or a moment of regret post-op.

Well, for what it's worth...
I was into GD up to my eye balls, so finally I got the letter, got the date after one SERIOUS cancellation due to a brain haematoma 3 days before my then scheduled surgery.
I almost had died then, was pretty far gone, 2 brain surgeries, paralysed on all my right side, could speak no more, close to being a vegetable...

Folks, and maybe I too, thought: wow that will show her where it's at, stupid SRS to want, and so on.
As soon as I was up and walking (after 5 - 6 days) I KNEW - NOTHING had changed, and nothing really had.

I mention this to give an idea of the motivation and drive I had for SRS.

Once I sat on the plain to Phuket all I was worried about that my brain-box would not play-up once again.
Well, bless it, it didn't, and the next day after my arrival I was in hospital.
It was NOTHING emotional, it was just the way it was TO BE.
If that makes sense?
My first of the two main-ops took about 7 - 8 hours the following day...

When I came to, again I was just calm - only vomited once, only a little - and from there on it was simply how to recover and do the right things.

The ONE thing that struck me the next few days, that as far as GD goes, it was like as if it NEVER had existed. Ever.
And I had suffered so much by it... it was gone. Completely.

That just left me pleased and somewhat amazed but that was it.
The rest was recovery - and getting used to the new down-stairs 'situation'.
It took me a while not to grab down there (after a pee and such) and wanting to tuck...

So, it was pretty much some sort of non-event really.

So much for my 'emotional' account.

Through it all, I was basically on my own and still am.
Axélle

[Dahlia]

So now being a woman with a vagina is "conforming to society". Well, well..

She doesn't need to since she's a woman anyway.

A ciswoman that is, someone different from a post op MTF.