Grudge?

[Tigerlily]

I know it's weird and in some way rude question, but I wonder if you've ever felt a grudge against other girls because they are happy with their bodies. I mean if you've ever hated so much your situation that you couldn't understand they are happy like this and they wanna be girls. If you've ever felt you just need humiliate someone (girl) to make you feel better. I don't intend to upset you this question, I just wonder - my beloved one (FTM) acts like that these days.

[Edge]

I know it's weird and in some way rude question, but I wonder if you've ever felt a grudge against other girls because they are happy with their bodies.

No. Yes, that is a rude question. Also, you are talking to a group of guys. "Other girls?"

I mean if you've ever hated so much your situation that you couldn't understand they are happy like this and they wanna be girls.

No. I'm pretty sure they are happy and want to be girls because they are girls.

If you've ever felt you just need humiliate someone (girl) to make you feel better.

Yeah I've got to admit that when an ex friend of mine continuously manipulated and hurt my (and her) friends and caused a huge amount of drama just because she was bored or something, I really wanted to take her down a peg. That's because she's a manipulative drama queen though not because of either of our genders. That would just be stupid.

I don't intend to upset you this question, I just wonder - my beloved one (FTM) acts like that these days.

Why don't you ask him?

[Tigerlily]

Ou, I'm really sorry - didn't mean it - I'm horrible, didn't think - I didn't mean "other girls" - just girls.  In Czech we say it like that, I was wrong. Really sorry, my fault.

Well, I asked him. I asked him if he does it on purpose or what and he told me "yeah, I hate that you are happy and I can't because I must go to the surgery to be happy". He's hot-tempered and often says things he doesn't mean but I really don't know how to stand up to it. Soon he'll go to the surgeries (first in September, second in winter) and last weeks he's more and more nervous, suspicious and offensive. I understand he has hard times and I wanna support him, I just wanna know if it's "normal" thing and it'll really get better after surgeries or not.

[Edge]

Ah I see. No worries then. Sorry if I sounded a bit hostile.
Unfortunately, it is not unusual for people in general I think for some to be resentful of other people's happiness and some people do take it out on other people. That said, he has no right to hurt you no matter how hard a time he's having.

[Natkat]

well I been jelous..
some part of me thinks like bikinis and so is very pretty, so when girls wear it and are all happy, it also makes me happy, like I wish I could be happy like that as well but if I where to wear it I would feel like.. well doing drag, and yet I sorta had to wear swimsuit when I was younger.
(now I dont have boobs anymore so it would also be kinda useless)

its never been like I wanted to hurt just being sigly jelous and somethimes sad, why I couldnt have a body I liked and who would be accepted. specially in my teen years, but its mostly been for guys who had a very nice body not girls.. Im just jelous they can wear pretty thing and be fabelous and happy while one guys your a "->-bleeped-<-" for doing it. but then on the other hands girls also had alot of annoying steryotypes I get rid off, like shaving.. and so.
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my beloved one (FTM) acts like that these days.
ask him, if that is the caise his a jerk, because your hurt/jelous is not a reason to hurt other people.

[Tigerlily]

Edge: It's okey you couldn't know. And you're right - it was really stupid mistake. I should concentrate on one thing (was in work when I wrote it) for the next time *smile*.

Natkat: Yeah, shaving is sometimes really annoying thing! - sometimes I don't know what's the point of this *laugh* - on the other hands I like smooth skin on me and so, so you know.

Well, guys, you're right. He has hard times but he isn't only one on the world who has. Few days ago I asked here about mood swings and taking T (Natkat answered me too I think *smile*). I thought (and kinda hoped) it could be caused by T and antidepressant but now I don't think so. He's like "now it's time for me - I must go to the surgeries and endured it all etc. And when I'll be alright we can focus on you". I understand he's really nervous of it all - and when I don't feel good or for ex. have PMS I'm horrible too *laugh* and it's such a small thing against his issues - but  I think if he'd care about me even little he'd understand he's hurting me. When I told him about it he got mad at me, so..  I really love him and even if we won't be together in "his next life" I'd like to support him and be his friend. But now I don't know if it'll be possible.

I'm really glad I can ask you  *smile*

[Lee]

We all have unhappiness in our lives, and I'm satisfied enough that the source of mine has a possible fix.  It seems impractical to hold someone's lack of a specific problem against them.

[AdamMLP]

Sometimes I get incredibly annoyed with people, mostly girls, because they just seem so stupid and clueless about the world, but I don't think that's anything to do with being trans really, I think it's just because I feel more mature than most people my age, probably because I grew up around people 30+ apart from during school hours.  I resent girls a bit because they understand other girls and can connect with them emotionally better than I can, so when they're upset or something I'm expected to be able to comfort them and I just can't, in words from Harry Potter I have the emotional range of a teaspoon.  I do take my frustration out sometimes, but never really aimed at one person, just at the world in general.