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Started by EmmaS, September 23, 2012, 10:48:15 AM

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EmmaS

Hi everyone :)

So, I came out to all my family, and close friends and thankfull I am fortunate and they all seem to be very accepting so far. I have always felt uncomfortable with my male body but now that I have truly accepted in my heart that I want to transition, I cannot stand being in this male body anymore and I am transitioning as fast as they will let me and I am 100% sure of my decision. Although I hate dressing like a male, I am horrified by the thought of being a non-passing female and so I am only dressing and acting like a female on my own at home whenever I am at home besides underwear and sometimes girl jeans. So my question is, I am going home for the holidays this year and I am unsure of what to do. My family has been very accepting, but I feel like it will be sooo awkward seeing them all now that they now how I truly feel and can't help but think this. I wish I could just go full time already when I see them but I doubt I will pass by then. What can I do to make it more comfortable with my family? Any suggestions whatsoever would be very appreciated! Thank you in advance, everyone here has been so supportive and kind so far.

<3 Emma
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Nathine

You are lucky that your family is accepting, Mine wasn't. You can generally wear female jeans out in public with no comment. No one seems to look or see any difference. Female shirts, outside of the buttons being on the other side, are often not noticed either, but you have the comfort that they are female clothing.
Transition often is a transition for the transgender and the entire family. Each member of the family will have to transition along with you in their own way. It's not an easy road, but it one that we have to follow.
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EmmaS

Hmm, I am so scared to wear a girls shirt in public or even around my friends but I really want to. I mean overall I wish I could just go full time and pass. I know what you mean about everyone transitioning though, I feel comfortable at this point with who I am, and I am soooo excited to finish my transition and live a happy life, but getting comfortable around my family and close friends will probably be one the hardest things for me still, and I know I am lucky that they accepting. I have heard horrible stories of families and friends who aren't and I cannot even imagine, and I am sorry to hear that your family wasn't accepting =( You seem like a genuinely good person from talking with you for a bit and we all just deserve to be happy. Are they becoming more accepting now at least?
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Nathine

My mother has me dead, rather than embarrass her, but I have never been happier not having to speak with her. I have a very interesting history, and she basically stole my life and when I found out, all hell broke loose. I am a chimera 80xx 20 xy on the spectrum. Some here are Klinfelter's mosaics, others may be AIS and not know it. I am also a retired physician, whose specialty is quite knowledgeable on rare situations.
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