Awkward

[Traivs]

Okay so I was hanging out with some friends at a club cause it was his birthday and his stepdad was the designated driver( cause we are safe drinkers )  and so I come back to where we were sitting after dancing for a bit with my friends wife.  his step dad motions me cause he wants to ask me something so thinking nothing of it i went over there. Than he whisper ask's me if their are trans people around here. My heart pretty much skips a beat, I wasn't sure if he figured it out or what? I simply say yes. Than he had a sigh of relief and said good cause I wasn't sure if that was just a really ugly woman or not. Obviously he doesn't realize I am trans but the convo kinda freaked me out before i realized he was talking about the drag queen who was hitting on him earlier. Either way it was super awkward cause he didn't ask anyone else, and by chance he chose me. Have any of you other guys been in a situation like that before? and how should you react?

[AdamMLP]

Do you do anything in the LGBT community or just generally show that you're accepting?  Or even if you're gay (I have no idea if you are or not just trying to think of reasons he'd pick you.)  If you do that might be why he asked you and no one else because he didn't want to ask someone who might have been transphobic and caused a scene?

He might of worked out that you're trans but seeing as he took you away from the other people and whispered I'd not be too worried that he's going to out you to everyone, if he was that sort of person he'd probably just have asked you directly, loudly and in front of them.

[anibioman]

thats weird ive had people do that to me make a trans people comment to me when im the only one they say it to even thou they dont know im trans.

[Natkat]

I quiet my last job due to many things ones where the transthing.

I wasn't out and I had a guy who made comments like.. "now I look like a transexual" for some costume wear.
also there where a discussion about intersex where people started talking about "well I guess its better they dont get born(because someone mention a intersex person had died), its not worth living when your genetalia dosent fit, it would be ->-bleeped-<-ed if you wasnt all a guy or a girl"

it made me feel like ->-bleeped-<-. What I should had done should had diffently been straight up proud telling them to STFU, but I was in a weak position where I just had lost someone important due to being trans so I wasnt really that out and proud at the time. I know its bad exuses, being death honest I was just chocked so didnt knew what to response or how to react. Normally it really depend on how I feel and what people say on how I feel about it.

[Jeatyn]

Once while I was getting some housing papers processed the woman behind the counter started blathering about someone who comes in who apparently looked like the trans skit from little britain, basically telling me about some poor transwoman and referring to her as a man in a dress and saying "I'm a lady!" like they do in the sketch. I didn't know how to react, I was shocked at the unprofessionalism and felt really awkward and just wanted to get out of there. I still regret to this day not kicking up a fuss and putting in a complaint.

[Traivs]

So I don't really do much in the LGBT community but I do go to the only gay bar in town with some friends on occasion. Apparently I do come off as a gay boy to a lot of strangers who see me as male. I am not sure if he figured out that I am trans or not though because all my friends we were with use male pronouns for me and my chosen name. Not sure if he choose me because i seem queer or trans or just coincidence. Though I am glad I am not the only one to have people make those kinds of comments to them.