What to do after a break-up...drink? Or go to the gym?

[Beth Andrea]

So my BFF+ broke up with me last night... She has a new guy-friend, but we're still BFF (and yes, I honestly believe that).

Last night was a little rough, had a couple beers, went to bed...when I woke up this morning I was like, "Ok, I can let this keep kicking me in the a$$, or...I can go to the gym and work out some frustrations."

I have a gym membership, but like oh so many I've used it maybe 3-4 times in the past 4 months...and those 4 times were in the first couple weeks of joining.

LOL  I mean, what is a gym membership for, but just to brag "Oh yeah, I have a gym membership!" Whoever heard of using it to actually get in shape, or to relieve mental exhaustion?
So I went...got my man-shorts on (haven't bought any girlie ones yet), a sports-type bra, a pink pink T-shirt...and when I parked, I came to the realization that when I wear a T-shirt, I am *definitely* showing my B-cups, front and cente...errr....front and left/right. VERY prominent! Hot damn! 

Went in, did a very short, very casual limbering (and lumbering LOL) elliptical (4 miles in 15 mins)...Bet you didn't know one could "lumber" on a mechanical torture device, but I did it!!

Average heart rate = 155, which sucks. The guy in front of me had a HR of 95-100 throughout his routine, yet he was much faster and a bit older...MOTIVATION!!! That's how I see that! Of course, I need to lose weight, so I need the aerobic aspect ("target zone" I think it's called).

So that was my morning. A new beginning, one without alcohol or sadness. I promise to do this again, tomorrow!!

Good morning!!

[Heather]

I'm sorry Beth about your BFF I think your handling this in the right way. Working out is the perfect way to handle this situation and get in shape too. When something is bothering me I normally head to the gym it helps get my mind off what's bothering me and focus on what's important.

[Anna++]

I agree that exercise is great for the mind.  When I start getting frustrated or distracted at work it's usually a sign that I need to get up and take a walk.

* hug *  I'm sorry to hear about the break up.  Hang in there!

[Beth Andrea]

I'm sorry Beth about your BFF I think your handling this in the right way. Working out is the perfect way to handle this situation and get in shape too. When something is bothering me I normally head to the gym it helps get my mind off what's bothering me and focus on what's important.

This is one of the ways your posts have helped me, Heather...before, I'd have never thought about the gym as therapy...this morning it was like, "Of course one goes to the gym when they're hurting/anxious! Duh!"

Thank you!

I agree that exercise is great for the mind.  When I start getting frustrated or distracted at work it's usually a sign that I need to get up and take a walk.

* hug *  I'm sorry to hear about the break up.  Hang in there!

Thanks Anna...and fyi, I went before I read your weight loss thread, but what a success!!! I hope I can lose what I need, or at least half...I know my neck area looks much more femme when it's stretched (remembering posture rules!), because it looks thinner!! So yeah, to make this work and make me somewhat passable I need to lose weight (and work on my voice, but that's another thread LOL)

*hug* to both of you!!

[Adam (birkin)]

I have heard that the times you feel you least need exercise, is when you need it the most. After my breakup I gained, literally, about 70-80 pounds (forget exactly how much I was before). My heathy eating and exercise literally stopped on a dime and now I have tons of bad habits I can't break. So you've certainly made the right decision.

[DirtyFox]

Last time I had a break up I cried a lot, watched a lot of romantic comedies, got lost in a forest a few times, and wrote a bunch of crap short stories that I used for kindling. Hiking in the forest was probably the best thing I did. Nature can really soothe an aching heart, if you're into that sort of thing I guess.

[Anna++]

Thanks Anna...and fyi, I went before I read your weight loss thread, but what a success!!! I hope I can lose what I need, or at least half...I know my neck area looks much more femme when it's stretched (remembering posture rules!), because it looks thinner!! So yeah, to make this work and make me somewhat passable I need to lose weight (and work on my voice, but that's another thread LOL)

Good luck!  I think keeping some kind of weight log helps since weight fluctuates, so now I know not to freak out if I'm up a pound from the day before.

Doctor Who got me through my last breakup.  All the new episodes are on Netflix, enjoy!

[Ms. OBrien CVT]

It does happen.  BFFs are separated by a guy.  But guys come and go, BFFs are forever.

[Ltl89]

Hey Beth,

I am really sorry to hear this. Please don't consider drinking as I believe that could replace one bad situation with another.  I am glad you are doing something productive like going to the gym.  As for your bff, I am glad she is still in your life.  That's great.  And don't worry, I'm sure you will find someone who will love you for being such an amazing person sometime soon.