Is it lonely in your closet?

[Janelle]

I love to dress up but I'm still in the closet to every one put my wife and therapist. I do want to go out into the world as Janelle very much! My biggest worry is how my kids and family would deal with it. The last time I went all out wig makeup I felt soooo good then I got realty sad and even cried a little when I realized I had no where to go. I know I hold the key to my closet, but there is other things to consider. Like my wife feelings and how me coming out would affect her. So my question is for those of you that are still in the closet is it lonely in there?

[barbie]

In my case, it did not take many days to go out in full dress.

Yes. Your wife and kids are important.

My little daughter scolds me when she happens to watch my photos in my iphone. aAt photos, I wear high heels and skirt. She also scolds me as I polish my toes with blue manicure. But kids are very flexible. If adults accept you, then your kids will follow it.

My wife does not care so much about my appearance. The most important thing she wants from me is money to sustain our family. She has no complaint.

Barbie~~

[barbie]

Yesterday, I returned home while wearing the same skirt. My daughter saw me, scolding me again. But it is a kind of her joke. She is 8 years old. When I look like wearing bra, she tries to touch it. She is very bright and playful.

Barbie~~

[Rena-san]

It can be just as lonely outside the closet.

[Your Humble Savant]

It can be. I'm only out to my friends and immediate family. I've been considering coming out to my grandparents and TERRIFIED that they'll hate me for it, because I love them and my extended family, love seeing them.

Hippolover25 has a point, too. It can be lonely outside the closet. Just 'cause you're out doesn't mean things'll get easier. It does for some, but not for everyone. The important thing is to find a support group, people who you can really depend on and start there. The rest can come when you feel ready.