So I got called out today by a trans-phobic bigot!

[Reagan]

I started out having a wonderful day. I went to the mall to do some much needed shopping. I have just gone full-time and I'm so in need of more clothes. After arriving at the mall today I was almost run down by a black woman in a Porsche SUV. As I started across the parking lot she sped up as if to run me down. Then stopped to let me pass by then started at me again.  I turned around and glared at her as if to give her the eat you know what look.  She the yelled at me "You is a dude ain't you!" At first I laughed at her because of her poor grammar. Then I flipped her off and yelled back at her. "You can take blank out of the ghetto, but you can't take the ghetto out of the blank!" (and no it's not the word you make think it is. I'm not like that). I thought this woman's head would explode. She thought she was so clever with her insult, but she was the one in the end who was so p/o'ed that she couldn't see straight. So I turned back around and put my noise in the air as if nothing ever happened and walked inside.

I guess money can buy you everything but class. This was defiantly proven to me today.

[Brooke777]

I am glad you did not take that from her. Way to fight back!

[gennee]

There are those times that you have to stand up  for yourself.

[Laura Emily]

It's always nice to hear about people taking a stand against this sort of thing. That woman should be ashamed of herself. Perhaps someone should threaten to run her over (without actually doing it!)

[JulieC.]

Good for you.  You should have taken her plate and reported her to the police...there are laws against that.

[Reagan]

I was so worried that she was gonna come find me in the mall and start something in there. People like that need to be taught a lesson, but what I can't figure out is how she clocked me. I mean I frigging pass very well. I rarely if ever get made. Oh' well I guess she saw something or was just guessing. Who gives a ----!  I'm proud of who I am and I refuse to be ridiculed by anyone. I would have thought a person of color would be the last person to show bigotry or hate, but I live in Atl and it's filled with people like that of all color. I would have to say, for the most part since coming out and now going full-time I haven't had any real issues. I tend to be polite and smile and be confident. That has worked for me.

I'm so tired of cis gender people telling me how to present or how to transition, which bathroom to use, what ID I'm allowed to have, what job or housing I can have and on and on. It's what fuels me. I think of these things when I start to feel nervous about a situation. I tell myself I have every right to be myself. If someone has an issue with it, fine let it be their issue not mine. I have all the love and support I need. I don't need some fool being an ass to me to bring me down. I actually feel sorry for them. What must their life be like that they have to go around treating people this way.

I'm glade I have the courage to stand up for myself and let people know that they are not allowed to treat me this way. I also have the wisdom to know when to do it. For instance I would never put myself or anybody else with me in harms way because of it. I think that being girl has given me the filter needed to avoid those types of situations. Lets face it I'm clearly not as strong as I used to be, but I'm every bit as tough.

[Zoey]

what I can't figure out is how she clocked me.

Girl, I'm telling you: When we're outside in natural light it's a whole 'nother ball game. Eek!
The light at different times of the day does weird things to our features, highlighting a long nose or deep-set eyes that normally are not an issue. I always feel a bit more self-conscious when I'm walking outside at high-noon because I know that, especially from a distance away, the lighting makes me look more male.

[spacial]

As Zoey says, but equally, someone could have tipped her off.

My wife very occasionally gets something similar, either because she's black, because she tends to look quite masculine or because she's has a large waist. She reckons these types are looking for a reaction, either fear or confrontation.

If they knew my wife, they'd know fear isn't in her repertoire. And after 35 years of mental health nursing, she knows about confrontation.

Just be careful love. These types are looking for trouble.

I strongly suspect, this woman was tipped off and was seeking to prove her toughness. It's a sad reality that many straight women today, having been beaten too often by some brute of a guy, tend to develop rather confrontational attitudes.

[Seb]

Good for you! You gave her a taste of her own medicine. More power to you, girl!

[Genevieve Swann]

Transphobia is common where I live (Utah). Mostly transphobic Mormon women. Mark Twain once wrote that polygamy among mormons was a good thing. Any man who will marry several of the homely creatures is doing a great favor for the rest of mankind. So maybe it is because we look much better than them. There are also many transphobic men who dress in western attire and have never been near a horse. It is the macho thing. I think some men get upset when they find the gal they are admiring is actually a man and it makes them doubt thier sexuality.

[spacial]

Only Mark Twain!

Just love his wry humour.

[mintra]

I was so worried that she was gonna come find me in the mall and start something in there. People like that need to be taught a lesson, but what I can't figure out is how she clocked me. I mean I frigging pass very well. I rarely if ever get made. Oh' well I guess she saw something or was just guessing. Who gives a ----!  I'm proud of who I am and I refuse to be ridiculed by anyone. I would have thought a person of color would be the last person to show bigotry or hate, but I live in Atl and it's filled with people like that of all color. I would have to say, for the most part since coming out and now going full-time I haven't had any real issues. I tend to be polite and smile and be confident. That has worked for me.

I'm so tired of cis gender people telling me how to present or how to transition, which bathroom to use, what ID I'm allowed to have, what job or housing I can have and on and on. It's what fuels me. I think of these things when I start to feel nervous about a situation. I tell myself I have every right to be myself. If someone has an issue with it, fine let it be their issue not mine. I have all the love and support I need. I don't need some fool being an ass to me to bring me down. I actually feel sorry for them. What must their life be like that they have to go around treating people this way.

I'm glade I have the courage to stand up for myself and let people know that they are not allowed to treat me this way. I also have the wisdom to know when to do it. For instance I would never put myself or anybody else with me in harms way because of it. I think that being girl has given me the filter needed to avoid those types of situations. Lets face it I'm clearly not as strong as I used to be, but I'm every bit as tough.

Good for you Reagan!