Have you wondered what people would say?

[Cindy]

I suppose I'm a pretty confident out there woman now a days. It wasn't always the case as many of my friends here remember. I've been so scared that I have hidden in the house. I have been so frightened I tried to hurt myself. I have called out for help on the lonely times, and my sisters and brothers have responded.

I'm not at the end of my journey by any means but I'm FT in life and I'm very well known as my male professional character, and of course becoming even more well known as my female self.

There ain't no stealth in my life.

I'm also confident and I have nothing left to hide behind, there is no going back for me. 'I'm sorry I'm not Cindy, I'm just a very naughty boy' may have worked for Brian but no chance for I.

Many of us have I think wondered about 'the phone call' and how people would react.

Today I had a call from a colleague who I have helped several times, a very nice man who has needed a bit of help and advice in his career. He is from Asia and I believe he is an Indonesian Moslem, I'm from the UK and a non-religious Australian.

Well he called me and asked for advice about his project etc and asked if he could come and see me. 'No probs, tomorrow is busy but how about coming in at 8 am and you can shout me a coffee' "I'm cheap'.

'Oh by the way my appearance has changed quite a lot since we last saw each other'.

"Oh what has happened?"

'I'm in the middle of having a sex change '

Stunned silence.

I could almost hear the phone tick.

Finally 'I've always admired and respected you, as long as you are happy I'm delighted for you'

Fine see you tomorrow.


It felt quite strange, but I've always wanted to do that for some odd reason.



Cindy

[Tristan]

your cool i like you 
yeah at Uni people are like yeah ok. sex change go for it. i love school for that

[Felix]

That sounds great. I always forget that I've changed and just go along as usual until I realize oh golly duh I need to explain my new look/name/voice/whatever. I tend to say something stupid like "I changed my name to Felix" and then just let them see what's going on from that.

"Hi I run on testosterone now instead of estrogen." "Hey oh yeah being a girl wasn't really working out for me, sorry I never mentioned it." "Oh right well I'm still the same person, this doesn't really affect much." Or my favorite and chillest offering: "Leah calls me daddy now." People usually get the picture quickly then and aren't about to challenge me on how I relate to my kid, so it's pretty safe.

I have no clue what people say. They usually wait until I'm not around.