God Im Confused!

[justmeinoz]

If anyone asks maybe just say you are exploring the concept of being "Genderfluid" and rejecting the male dominated, heteronormative gender order. Let them work that out!!

Karen.

[Silas.]

Lol! I like this approach.

I agree with this

[Silas.]

This
and this
You look like, and seem to self-identify as, a very pretty boy to me and that's a perfectly good thing to be. Having some feminine tastes and traits like the ones you described is something gay men have had to deal with for ages and then learn to love ourselves as we are. You're not so different in that respect. You're not alone at all. I can see how you might feel more reluctance to accept them having been born female-bodied but that doesn't change it. It seems like a phase some trans folk go through when they're still being mis-gendered--feeling like they need to be a very stereotypical male or female in order to pass OR in order for some ignorant people to accept that they really are trans. It's understandable and I could see myself doing the same thing in the same shoes, but as they start to pass consistently and as they educate the people around them about being trans, they relax into who they really are and are a lot happier.

I doubt anyone, trans or not, fits all the stereotypical expectations of being a man or a woman. The reality is we are all very complicated individuals (thank goodness!) and labels are just a quick summary way of describing ourselves that will always fall short of describing who we are. Just think about that list you made and imagine having a one-word label to describe all of that. Not gonna happen. But that's the real you.

Yeah I agree. Thanks for this post. and yepp I do see myself as a "pretty boy" male but flamboyant