Hello all.

[Liminal Stranger]

So...wow. This is my first time being able to actually talk to other people about this, ever.
I just had a birthay last month, though I get mistaken for quite a bit younger most of the time. I seem to get pretty mixed response when it comes to gender.

Here's me:



I'd really like to get a haircut soon. Excuse the lighting and my awkward expression...kind of exhausted as of late with some family issues going on.

Family has basically been the one thing holding me back from transitioning publicly. From a very young age, I knew I was different, but the irony was that I pranced around in a pink tutu and fairy wings as I dug for worms and played tag with the other boys. Being older now, I've certainly changed my attire to something of a different style 

One of my worst fears is having to tell my parents, especially my mother. She often goes into screaming rants about me being homosexual or that I should just go get a sex change. My dad isn't around too much, but he would possibly be the more accepting out of them. Outside of them, I don't have any real close family to worry about. I've been hoping to wait it out until I'm on my own.

So yeah, this is me, admitting and embracing the whole thing to others for the first time. Sorry for all the wordiness, but it feels great to get all this off my chest!
I hope to find some great friends in this community; I've been lurking for a little bit and you guys seem like a really nice group of people.

[Ms. OBrien CVT]

Hi Liminal Stranger,

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Janet 

[Liminal Stranger]

Hi Liminal Stranger,

Welcome to our little family. Over 8953 strong. That would be one heck of a family reunion.

Feel free to post your successes/failures, Hopes/dreams.  Ask questions and seek answers. Give and receive advice.

But remember we are family here, your family now. And it is always nice to have another member.

And be sure to check out these links ( MUST READS )

• Site Terms of Service and rules to live by
  
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Janet 

Haha, sorry about that. It's a bit late over here and I tend to overlook things when I'm tired. I'll be sure to check through all of the rules now so I don't break any. Really, it'd be terrible to do that just after finding such a lovely forum.
Thank you for the warm welcome! I'm looking forward to getting to know people I can really be myself around.

[Ms. OBrien CVT]

No worries.  Sleep well.

[Devlyn]

Hi Liminal Stranger, it's nice to meet you! Sorry we missed your birthday. We'll catch it next time around. I'm up near Boston. See you around the site, hugs, Devlyn

[Charley Bea(EmeraldP)]

Hello Liminal Stranger and welcome to the site.

[Liminal Stranger]

Wow. Many thanks to all of you, and I'm just glad I got to spend my birthday with someone I cherish, though they happen to be very far away at the moment. Right now I'm hanging in there, waiting to be fully independent so that I won't have to worry about my parents, who would be much less than accepting if I were to attempt coming out to them. But that's just how life works sometimes 

[Catherine Sarah]

Hi Liminal Stranger,

A big Aussie welcome to Susan's family. It's good of you to drop in and say "Hi". Hope you like it here, and you stay for a while.

There is a mountain of information, resources and friendship waiting for you here, you just need to jump in start talking and ask any question you like. You're quite safe here and we are very accepting.

Wishing you a belated birthday. Hope it was a spectacular event. Even to yourself.

Could possible be a good idea to print some correct info about the outcome of your feelings and give it to your Mum. She's probably doped up on all the mis information about this medically acknowledged condition there is to be found. She may also have issues about it being her fault somehow. Anyway, if you can get her onside, could be a blessing in disguise.

Looking forward to hearing more of your story in time to come, but in the meantime, be safe, well and happy.

Lotsa huggs
Catherine

[Liminal Stranger]

Hello, and hugs to you too! It seems many interesting people I know hail from down under these days c:
I'd love to do that, but the problem is that my mother is a devout Catholic, and would probably kick me out at best. She's already had several fits over her feelings about it without me even telling her anything, merely based on her suspicions. Unfortunately, my parents aren't the most stable folks :c

I'm doing what I can for now, and maybe someday I'll be able to tell them, but the plan so far is to cut off contact with all of my family once I finish my schooling. Hopefully I can let them know beforehand, and the best case is that they'll accept it, though I don't expect either one of them to.

Thanks for the birthday wish! It had its light and dark moments, but I had some very close people with me to help make it a special day in a positive manner.

Going to try not to be too shy around here, since everyone seems so nice and accepting. It's really awesome to get to talk freely as who I am for once- like liberating something deep inside me that had been crammed into a dark, cold cage all these years. I'll keep everyone posted on whatever I can do in the way of transitioning and getting through life, and maybe even giving advice and the like when I am able to.

Though questions seems like a great place to start c:

Stay well, all!

[Catherine Sarah]

Hi Liminal,

Good to hear your birthday had some top moments to it. It's really important to celebrate these moments, even if it is just by yourself. Just think of the party you can have. You know what you like, you can set up a party table full of it and have an absolute treat.

I too, have come from a devout catholic family, and in my humble opinion, I wouldn't waste your time trying to explain anything. Particularly if your family isn't all that stable. That will amplify the bigotry. Anything outside the catechism is demonic, sinful and hell bound. It is such a shame, so many people have been brow beaten into such absolute nonsense. It will be interesting to see the outcome of the Royal Commission into child abuse that has been set up in Australia just recently. Catholicism is in for a very rude shock.

Feel free to ask any question that passes your mind. Just remember the only silly question is, the one you never ask. Keep up the good job you are doing, in the meantime, be safe, well and happy.

Lotsa huggs
Catherine