don't know what to think of this?

[Talofa]

Hey All

So this is the 1st time in possibly 3yrs I would address this personal issue, only my family would know.
I was wondering if this is the norm in the transgendered community? I have this phobia about my facial hair. It's actually ruled my life for the past 3yrs, as it's grown.

It really gets me down, to the point I won't leave my home unless I've plucked it ALL off. Which means I rarely live my house for months. As my beard grows back in a wk and a bit after I've plucked it. And than waiting for it to grow back is a miserable time for me. Like I think I'm going through serious depression because of this?

It's taken me a good few years to realize I should just go through transitioning despite what "others" may think?
I've lived as a fa'afafine all my life(google it) I've never once appeared "hetro" to the world.

I know ppl may say why I haven't gone through laser treatments. I have, I just couldn't bare the pain the 1st and only time I initiated a treatment.

So I'm in my second wk of hrt both spiro & E. Feeling like I've taken the road to something I should of done many yrs ago. I'm going to go thru laser treatment, and just take the pain, like they say "beauty is pain" so true in the life of a mtf. Unless you started early or just blessed to be smooth lol

Anyway when I do feel down and isolated from the world(cos that's my life for ya ) I come on here and read a lot. Just makes me realize it does get better. And I keep a positive mind for those reasons.

Xo

[Cindy]

Well properly done laser is not that painful and you can take analgesia and anaesthetic creams etc. Email Sandra Jane on the News staff as she has professional experience in the area.

As a fa'afafine you would already be accepted in your culture, from what I understand, excuse me if I'm incorrect, so any bodily or cosmetic changes would not be seen in anyway unusual. So I'm unsure why you are so nervous?

[Jenny07]

Don't worry about the so called pain of laser, its really not that bad and quickly subsides when done properly as Cindy said. I have had 4 sessions and look forward to them in a sick way. Why you might say? It means that I am finally doing something to ease the intense pain of a much greater issue. It has made such a difference and there are only a few patches left of my heavy facial hair which I have always detested. Feeling much better about this now.
It takes about 2 weeks for the hair to fall out but it is worth it.
After the heavy growth is gone the pain level is much less.

Hope that this helps

Jen

[Talofa]

Well properly done laser is not that painful and you can take analgesia and anaesthetic creams etc. Email Sandra Jane on the News staff as she has professional experience in the area.

As a fa'afafine you would already be accepted in your culture, from what I understand, excuse me if I'm incorrect, so any bodily or cosmetic changes would not be seen in anyway unusual. So I'm unsure why you are so nervous?

I shall look into that, Thanks x

Yes fa'afafine is well accepted in the poly community. I say more in the islands, than island families living in western countries, like mine/I..

I suppose I get anxiety when it comes to being out in public. Funny when I was younger and perhaps more naive, I was very confident about my sexuality.

Getting older I guess??? I've let people's perceptions get the better of me. I'm quite sensitive, although in person I don't show it.

[Talofa]

Don't worry about the so called pain of laser, its really not that bad and quickly subsides when done properly as Cindy said. I have had 4 sessions and look forward to them in a sick way. Why you might say? It means that I am finally doing something to ease the intense pain of a much greater issue. It has made such a difference and there are only a few patches left of my heavy facial hair which I have always detested. Feeling much better about this now.
It takes about 2 weeks for the hair to fall out but it is worth it.
After the heavy growth is gone the pain level is much less.

Hope that this helps

Jen

Thanks Jen