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Started by ArielleJay, November 20, 2012, 10:23:41 PM

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ArielleJay

I was wondering if people were up for talking about how they view their current town or city, and how they are treated.

Personally, I haven't had much issue in Toronto, even in the very yuppy area that I currently live in. My partner and I are respected, never denied service but it does help that we're adorable  :laugh:
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Alainaluvsu

New Orleans is known for its weirdness... so ... I'm treated like I'm nobody different :D

There's a huge trans presence here, I see a trans person almost every time I go out in public. As a matter of fact, including me, I know of at least 5 in my neighborhood alone and I've only lived here for a little over a month! NOPD has been known to be awful to us, but the Dept of Justice demanded that they clean up their act and they're pretty much now forced to address us according to our gender ID. There are low cost clinics that cater to transsexuals here, too. If you qualify for the cities healthcare system, visits to the clinic and lab tests are paid down greatly. If you're HIV positive, there are houses that cater to you and will not discriminate on you if you're trans, and they'll respect your gender ID. So many LGBT bars, clubs, hang out spots dot the city, so it's hard to ignore us. We are also well known for our LGBT festivals (Fringe, Southern Decadence, some of the Mardi Gras Krewes). There were a couple events for Transgender Day of Rememberance, too.

Of course with our huge presence, there's a bigger chance to get clocked. But even on the rare day that I am clocked, they don't act any different from how they treat any other girl. We have the occasional jerk-wad, but they're usually either tourists or the random bible thumper.

Who doesn't love New Orleans, though?? Laissez bon temps rouler! :)
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Ms. OBrien CVT

Portland Oregon is another weirdness place.  Very Trans friendly.  We have a trans doctor (MtF) here and a trans therapist (FtM).  We have several groups that are trans only groups and we have one of the largest Drag shows, Darcelle's.   

And we have a saying here that is used by many cities. 


  
It does not take courage or bravery to change your gender.  It takes fear of living one more day in the wrong one.~me
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eli77

I just moved to TO a couple months ago, and, ya, it seems pretty relaxed. I'm not visibly trans, but I am visibly queer and I haven't been bothered or anything.
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tekla

That slogan might be used by several places, but it originated in Austin, Texas as part of the effort to keep the SXSW Festival there.

And in San Francisco, we don't even need to tell - or in the case of Portland, sell - people on our weirdness.  We don't even see it that way.  It's just 49 square miles of beauty surrounded by reality.
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Michelle G

I live 120 miles east of San Francisco in a historic gold rush era town, nice little scenic place and my family goes back over 70 years here.....but! It is very conservative, mostly older retired and I see signs around for weekly "Tea Party" meetings,

  It's easy to fill in the blanks and figure out how trans folks could be treated here if not careful.

It's part of the reason I like to go see my daughter in San Francisco as often a I can :)
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Alainaluvsu

Quote from: Michelle G on November 21, 2012, 12:46:28 AM
I live 120 miles east of San Francisco in a historic gold rush era town, nice little scenic place and my family goes back over 70 years here.....but! It is very conservative, mostly older retired and I see signs around for weekly "Tea Party" meetings,

  It's easy to fill in the blanks and figure out how trans folks could be treated here if not careful.

It's part of the reason I like to go see my daughter in San Francisco as often a I can :)

Girl.. time to make that move whenever possible. That just sucks to live so close to an awesome, one of a kind place like SF and be stuck in Haterville. There's only a handful of cities in the USA that is completely unique, and SF is one of them. It's kinda why the first chance I was able to, I went 300 miles south east to New Orleans. Not everyone in the country is blessed to live near a gem like we are ;)
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Serah

I live about thirty minutes east of Columbus, Ohio and my town is amazingly good for a "red" town and what i have found out about my city is that at least here you can be who you want and no one will tell you anything to your face. Ironically Columbus is an amazing town where everyone supports everyone and even if they dont they keep their mouths to themselves. So all in all my city is an amazing place and everyone here knows about me due to an accident with an ex-friend who went and spread the word around. But i would love to hear where else is quite accepting in the world.
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Cindy

Adelaide is very friendly to everyone.

Yes there are creeps but they find stones to live under.

It is against the law to discriminate against TG or anyone else for that matter, and it is enforced.

I've never had a problem. We have lots of festivals and stuff and our climate is pretty magical as well. Very Gay friendly - either/all genders, Gay/lesbian politicians and judges. Some one said there were some straight people as well  :laugh:
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kelly_aus

Quote from: Cindy James on November 21, 2012, 01:34:15 AM
Adelaide is very friendly to everyone.

Yes there are creeps but they find stones to live under.

It is against the law to discriminate against TG or anyone else for that matter, and it is enforced.

I've never had a problem. We have lots of festivals and stuff and our climate is pretty magical as well. Very Gay friendly - either/all genders, Gay/lesbian politicians and judges. Some one said there were some straight people as well  :laugh:

I can second Cindy's comments about Adelaide. I've not had one problem, well, apart from some odd looks and comments - those I return with a gleeful smile.
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Cindy

Quote from: kelly_aus on November 21, 2012, 01:57:07 AM
I can second Cindy's comments about Adelaide. I've not had one problem, well, apart from some odd looks and comments - those I return with a gleeful smile.

Talking about cities, you know any good places to catch up and eat at?
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Beverly

Manchester, England is known for its LGBT friendliness and its "Gay Village" is widely publicized in the city's tourism & leisure literature. I just spent a weekend in rural Wales as well and had no problems there either. The UK seems to be a very accepting place and there are lots of legal protections for trans folk.

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aleon515

Ok, I'll put in a plug for Albuquerque New Mexico. Actually very trans friendly, we got a great trans center (amazing for such a little town), and a really active trans community. No one yet really quite sees me as the guy I am but almost no one gives me a sidewise glance. If you like green chili it's even better, but my stomach doesn't tolerate it.

--Jay J
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big kim

I live in Blackpool it has a large LGBT population and several pubs and clubs including Funny Girls drag show bar.There's a large trans population with girls significantly outnumbering the boys and a good support/social group called Renaissance which meets fortnightly here. There's a few rough areas so you don't go there unless you have to.The police are pretty good too homophobia/transphobia is dealt with very seriously.Never been refused services for being TS and don't know anyone who has.There's a few haters but they tend to be ignorant teenagers or drunks.At weekends the place is pretty rowdy as it's a popular place for stag/hen nights and the football supporters when Blackpool play at home.More disturbingly there have been several demonstrations by far right groups like the BNP and EDL in recent years.It's a bit run down but there's a lot of worse places to live!
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Kadri

Canberra, the Australian capital, is known as a boring place to most Australians from larger cities. Other trans people have had bad experiences, but I can only speak for my own experience from the times when people used to notice me for being trans (not for being a tall, striking blonde like they do now  ;D ). Back then I would get comments or stares, mainly from teenage boys. Most of the people here are highly educated, and working in the federal government or one of the universities. This group of people doesn't seem to have much of a problem with trans people. There are plenty of safe places to go and socialise, and I have travelled on the buses without ever being hassled. The local government (Canberra is an independent territory) is very trans friendly, providing generous funding for A Gender Agenda, a local trans advocacy and support group. I haven't delved too far into the lesbian community, but I have found people very accepting of me there as well. There seems to be less antagonism amongst LBGTI groups here than what i understand is the case in other places.

The only problem is it is almost impossible to go stealth as you bump into the same people over and over again, and half of them know you from before transition, and all of them know someone who knows you! A lot of people I knew here have moved to larger cities (Melbourne seems to be the favourite) to start a new life.
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justmeinoz

Despite Cindy's inferences  :laugh:   Hobart, capital of the Australian state of Tasmania is generally a pretty accepting place.  There are a minority  who are trans/homophobic, but most people are pretty relaxed. 

We are currently in the middle of Pride Week, and the Anti-Discrimination and Vilification Act has just been amended to give specific protection to Intersex people, which I understand is a world first.  Also an attempt to have religious groups exempted from the Act was defeated. 

Apparently it is one of the strongest Anti-Discrimination Acts anywhere, which is a big change from even 20 years ago.   The local support and activism groups are fairly prominent and effective having a captive island audience as it were.

Karen.
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Misato

Twin Cities have been all right.  I don't know much about the community outside of the University of Minnesota but I hear there are other resources.  I will say the problems I've had have had typically came from a rougher crowd who were likely to give me grief no matter what.

Green Bay, where I grew up, on the other hand scares the crap out of me.  I will return after I go full time but that day, I dread.

Why do I suddenly find myself wondering when my next high school reunion is?
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A

My city has less than 200 000 people. The whole region is less than 300 000, and it's isolated from any other populated area by a good 2.5 hours of road. Statistically, that makes 1/10000*300000 = 30 trans people in the whole area, I think, all ages together. With the population getting old, that makes about 3-6 of them being remotely young. 1-4 of them being girls, still hypothetically. Actually, I believe I'm the first or second "young" patient with transsexualism that my psychiatrist sees. And he's the only one for referring trans people in the whole area.

And that's if they stay. But they don't. They'll tend to move to Montréal and such, where help is more readily available and there's even a support group. And trans or not, most young people who want to study eventually go away for studies, and they don't always come back.

All that makes it so that transsexualism is an almost nonexistent phenomenon here, and whatever exists, people view it as almost exclusively for old people, like that white-haired local historian who publicly came out as transgendered.

This has the advantage of not really readily raising people's suspicions. It also has the disadvantage that there's a good chance I'll become a pretty popular conversation topic when I socially transition next year. A bit annoying that I have to do it with the same classmates, eh.

Lol, Tessa, about the French separatists. That sounds like a funny scene. xD
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monica.soto


My city is one of the most violent places to live in in the world that aren't war zones, more than 10 transgendered women are murdered on a yearly basis, and cis women get murdered so much, new legislation has been passed by congress so as to typify the murder of a woman as a crime set apart from normal murder. The police force is corrupt and many times involved in criminal activities.

On the plus side, the gay community is growing and pressuring to have itself heard, there have been growing gay pride parades for 5 years now. Also if you're one of the lucky few that have enough money, you can get to do whatever you might wish.
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Nicolette

I haven't a clue about my city as I don't intend to ever out myself. When I moved to SE England I had already transitioned. The only TG resource I have used is 70 minutes drive down to Westminster.
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