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Started by Jessica M, November 25, 2012, 01:10:49 PM

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Jessica M

Hi Everyone,

At this stage I am mostly out of the closet. All my family and close friends know and have been totally fine with it, which was a surprise at first.

All that was left was to make a big public announcement about it. I'm not normally a fan of this kind of thing but it was starting to get annoying not knowing who had and hadn't heard on the grapevine when in big groups/when friends SOs were there etc.

So I just decided to get it all out in the open and let everyone else worry about it haha, So far most people who have responded already knew and the ones who didn't have been supportive. I'd say most people who don't like it just won't reply at all, I don't know any real arseholes who would go on a mad one over it.

I just put a status up on Facebook http://i.imgur.com/Gp0B2.png and it's all good so far. Before doing this I unfriended all the people I had only met "at a party that one time" or the people from school who I never talked to even then.

So far so good and I hope you all have just as much good fortune as I have had if not more. :)

Jessie xoxo
Imagining the future is a kind of nostalgia - Alaska Young in "Looking for Alaska" (John Green)

I will find a way, or make one!
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Constance

I did something similar when I went full-time in September 2011. I was already running 2 FB pages, one for the legal me and one for the Real Me. I posted a note on the legal me (David) FB page describing what was happening, invited friends to seek out my Real Me FB page, and included a message that I'd be shutting down the David FB page by the end of 2011.

FB can be a good way of getting the message out there.

Jamison

Congrats on coming out. I went the FB path as well. It lets people absorb your message as encourages others to support you as they can visually see those who respond well to your status update. The only downfall is for those who don't check FB regularly as lose your post in the news feed.

And while we're sharing:

http://i46.tinypic.com/2hgak3b.jpg
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Ms. OBrien CVT

An Awesome way to let everyone who knows you to be informed.

  
It does not take courage or bravery to change your gender.  It takes fear of living one more day in the wrong one.~me
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Jessica M

Quote from: Jayboicurtis on November 25, 2012, 01:41:59 PM
Congrats on coming out. I went the FB path as well. It lets people absorb your message as encourages others to support you as they can visually see those who respond well to your status update. The only downfall is for those who don't check FB regularly as lose your post in the news feed.

And while we're sharing:

http://i46.tinypic.com/2hgak3b.jpg

That's awesome, I really wanted to be that blunt but just couldn't do it. I had to gentrify my message :P
Imagining the future is a kind of nostalgia - Alaska Young in "Looking for Alaska" (John Green)

I will find a way, or make one!
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MadelineB

Congratulations!

One option after you've come out is to do what I did, and keep your existing Facebook profile, and just correct your name and gender and Facebook alias and linked email address. I found the process deeply satisfying. All references to your old name and gender wherever it is linked, automatically update all at once. Its a great way of getting the message out, and it feels great to suddenly be yourself in a thousand places at once.

I kept my history including photos and posts, but Facebook allows you to easily remove photos from your own wall, remove tags from photos elsewhere that you no longer want associated with you, and remove or hide status updates etc from your timeline. There is no reason to delete your account unless you want to, or you have two accounts. After all, I didn't delete me, I just updated my presentation to match my reality. My online identities went through the transition with me. :)

Oddly enough, I didn't lose a single one of my religious or conservative friends, but ended up gaining dozens of friends who seemed to come out of the woodwork to find me once I was happily me, including many who I hadn't talked to in 20 years! A few expressed gratitude that I kept a few of my old photos with my new name and gender, so they could realize that I was their friend they once new and missed all these years.
History, despite its wrenching pain, cannot be unlived, but if faced with courage, need not be lived again.
~Maya Angelou

Personal Blog: Madeline's B-Hive
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Jamison

Quote from: Jessica M on November 25, 2012, 01:52:34 PM
That's awesome, I really wanted to be that blunt but just couldn't do it. I had to gentrify my message :P

Eh, people wouldn't expect anything less from me. Your's was definitely more ladylike :p
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Jessica M

I already have another account which I use for membership of the page related to the support group I go to here. They don't know my boy name or any of that and I'd prefer to keep it that way. I would just prefer to no longer be associated with any pictures of me that are out there so it's much easier that way.

Ladylike is definitely what I aim for (most of the time :P )
Imagining the future is a kind of nostalgia - Alaska Young in "Looking for Alaska" (John Green)

I will find a way, or make one!
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Tristan

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Holly P

OUT-standing!!!  So proud of you!
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