Ready to come out to the world

[Chandra21]

Until now, I have pretty much been in the closet about my GID. My parents know, my brother knows and my best friends Evan, Meagan, Samantha and Robyn know. But pretty much the rest of the world is unaware. I'm sure they realize there is something different about me but they do not know what it is. But no more. Today I walked out of my home as woman for the first time in my life. I went to a coffee shop and at first the guy called me "sir", which kind of threw me into a slump of nervousness, but after I opened my mouth, spoke with my well trained feminine voice and asked what I wanted, he corrected himself, apolagized and told me that its just been a long nignt. I guess my face doesn't pass very well, but my voice sure as hell does. Oh well, My friend Meagan is going to teach me how to apply make up and make my face more feminine anyways. I also used the womans washroom for the first time today. I have never been so much happier than I am now. I tried to drown myself in the tub last week because I was so depressed... and this week i'm jumping for Joy! I'm glad I found this website. Its given me so much hope, confidence and guidence that is leading me to happiness.^_^

This week I'm going to come out to my co workers and my boss too, so i'll be able to work as a female too! Work has never been very fun for me because I was constrained to wearing a masculine uniform... I often skipped work because I wasn't in the mood to be a male. But if my boss and co workers are understanding, work won't be too bad. If they aren't I'll just quit my job. Their loss. I am pretty sure that they will understand though. ^_^

The only people I can't come out to are my fellow church members because "Christians" (Not Christians... "Christians") are so close minded about this subject. Does anyone know of any churches that accepts Transexuals? I'm an agnostic Christian (I acknowledge the fact we have no proof of the existence of God and that there might not be a God but still choose to believe in her anyways) and don't believe that going to church is neccessary to worship God, but I like to be there for the social aspect so I want to find a church that will accept me for who I am. Sorry if this last part doesn't really belong here... I figured it does, because it involves the people that I really can't come out of the closet to.

[Jillieann Rose]

Oh Chandra that is great.
Yes to be accepted as the gender that you are inside is a really high.
I hope everything goes well for you at work.
As far as a church I think any church that accepts gay people will accept transsexuals too.
Jillieann

[Renae.Lupini]

Can't come out at church? Sounds like you need a new church then. This is one that i see online a lot of the time. They may be able to direct to others that are closer to where you live if you aren't in Texas. personally, i am not a big fan of organized religions but if you feel you need one then you might want to look into one that will help you and not hinder you.

This may be the only time you see an atheist quote the bible but this is my favorite verse - Galatians 3:27. "There is neither Jew nor Greek, there is neither slave nor free, there is neither male nor female; for you are all one in Christ Jesus."

Tell your GLBT hating, fascist "Christians" that one.

[LostInTime]

First off, congrats!

When it comes time for makeup lessons, be sure that the person you are learning from looks really good with makeup.

For work and friends, you might want to look at the transition letters. I know that it helped me a lot when I came out to something like 140 coworkers.

Good luck and have fun!

[Renae.Lupini]

The only people i "came out" to at work was my HR rep and my immediate supervisor. everything else was done at a managerial level. Everyone in the company that i was going to interact with given advanced knowledge of my decision. I was not a part of any of the meetings or discussions. I still work for the same company and everyone treats me as they would any other women in the office.

[Chandra21]

Can't come out at church? Sounds like you need a new church then. This is one that i see online a lot of the time. They may be able to direct to others that are closer to where you live if you aren't in Texas. personally, i am not a big fan of organized religions but if you feel you need one then you might want to look into one that will help you and not hinder you.

This may be the only time you see an atheist quote the bible but this is my favorite verse - Galatians 3:27. "There is neither Jew nor Greek, there is neither slave nor free, there is neither male nor female; for you are all one in Christ Jesus."

Tell your GLBT hating, fascist "Christians" that one.

Well, I'm actually a combination Agnostic, Wiccan and Christian and don't believe that we have proof that any church is the true church of God, so I only attend it for social reasons. They keep trying to feeding BS when ever I try to challenge some of the things that don't sit right with me, and I know that they won't accept it if I ask if I can come to service in a skirt and blouse... so leaving my current church is a definate for me.

First off, congrats!

When it comes time for makeup lessons, be sure that the person you are learning from looks really good with makeup. Wink

For work and friends, you might want to look at the transition letters. I know that it helped me a lot when I came out to something like 140 coworkers.

Good luck and have fun!

I'm actually in the process of getting a new job, so I decided that It would be best to go into my next as a female and forget about letting my current one know about my gender issues (I probably will only be working there for another 2 weeks.)