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Ugh

Started by J.T., June 03, 2007, 10:12:14 PM

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J.T.

Man, this sucks.  I was all excited, got dressed in my best clothes to go meet with a group of people.  I put on my best sportsbra.  That's all I have right now.  I NEED a binder, especially after today.  I never realized how much i want to be recognized as a male until today, until I heard myself be referred to as a woman for the first time in at least a week.

See, I haven't been called sir out in public, but nobody has been "miss" and "ma'am"ing me either.  So, anyway on to today.  I go in all excited to meet people and for some reason I'm deluded enough to think they'll consider me a man.  Walk in and one of the members says to the only other guy there before me "oh, looks like you're the only man so far".  It hit me like a ton of bricks, really stopped me cold.

Not to mention the fact that the rest of the time when i said something they would look to my chest.  If only those "things" weren't there.  Why couldn't they just ASK me, instead of freaking staring at my chest.

I've been doing so great, but I'm not gonna let this get me down.  I am gonna use it as a motivational tool, and another step in the right direction.

but... UGH.
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zombiesarepeaceful

Eh, I feel ya. When I got my underworks tri top I was happy that I might be able to breathe while binding again but quickly learned that it wasnt flat enough for me to not be paranoid that I could be mistaken for a female again. Haven't been ma'am'd in months.

So..back to duct tape..>.<

Matt
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Christo

hey bro  that blowes. sorry about it.  u gotta keep tryin' :) 
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scurvydog

Do you pass pretty well usually? Because if you pass a lot of the time, then the one occassion you don't is magnified by that. I'm fortunate not to get that all the time, but one way I used to fix that was by not being around other people much (I wouldn't recommend that either)

Take it as just one of those things that happens, and I know it sends the ->-bleeped-<-ters on you when you're in the moment, but don't let it get to you. In other words, keep your chin up.
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Judge Yourself

Bah... I get that most days and have resorted to going out as little as possible (not that i did much anyway ;) ) I get miss and lady.. and hen.. more than anything else - i put it down to having a stupid girly face... See i was like you, i though nah it won't bother me - then i had to repeat my details to this utilities guy a couple weeks ago (you prolly remember my thread) with me i think its an unlucky mix of everything... I can say to 'not let it get you down' but it can be awful if you do tend to get it all the time, rather than just occasionally... People keep telling me to not give a sh*t and ignore people, but i sure as hell can't do it either. It is a horrible thing when it does actually hit you cause for some reason you don't expect it to, and i reckon that just why it does... Keep your chin up is all I can say cause I haven't much succeeded as far as not being bothered by others - hey I know i suck at advice, it wasn't so much advice anyway - more empathy. :)
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J.T.

thanks guys.

no, i don't pass.  I think i will, but i don't.  I had gone around for a week with nobody referring to me as a girl.  It rocked!!!  And then i felt like i got hit by a brick.

I guess i'm very androgynous right now in my appearance.  I only got new clothes and cut my hair a couple of weeks ago.  Unfortunately the hair cutting didn't go well... so I need to just get the guts to go in.  I'm sure once I do that i'll totally pass, i did when i was a teenager/young kid.  Oh, and a binder too.

At least I don't get ma'amed anymore, woohoo.  But i don't get sir either :(

Soon hopefully.
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