Hi, Jessy!
Welcome to the funhouse! You can contact me as needed. I was married for 11 years before I "came out of the closet", and my wife tried to accept it. Now, she and I are splitting up.
I hope that things work out for you two. Losing your SO from her side does not make it easier, but you shouldn't stay around to avoid her pain. Stay if you choose to, but go if you need to. My wife sticking around actually made things worse with her comments and daily insults, so this route I'm taking will be extremely difficult AND hard, but it'll be worth it.
My best wishes to the two of you!