New SO * Needs Friends

[Jellyjessy]

Hi,

I am married to a man who told me he wanted to become a woman last year. I would like to make friends with someone who is transitioning to try and understand how my husband feels, I dont want to hurt his feelings because of my comments or ignorance, so I just want to talk to someone and understand the process.

I have to admit that right now I am very lost and sad. But I just want him to be happy no matter which path he takes.

If you are interested in being my friend and helping me out, please message me

[Kate]

Hello Jessy (is that how you'd like to be addressed?)! And welcome to Susans!

There is a wealth of information here... by all means feel free to browse around. Odds are you'll find many stories similar to your husbands and yours.

You might find the wonderful Significant Others talk area particularly helpful.

And hey, you just made a couple hundred friends who will me more than willing to help you out I think it's *wonderful* that you're taking the time to work through and understand this... and I hope we can help!

Please don't hesitate to ask about anything you'd like to know, and we'll do our best to help ya out

~Kate~

[Peggiann]

Hi jellyjessy,

I wanted to say welcome to Susan's. I am Leah's S.O. My hubby and I were married about 20 years before Leah came out with The statement "I'm T.G. and I want to Transition to being the woman I have always hid for my intire life." That was about 7 and a half years ago or so. This site was a God send when we found it. It was so confusing what to refer to Leah and other T.G individuals. I would be so embarrased when I would use the wrong pronouns. The people here help Leah and I a bunch. We lurked reading all we could before we ever posted because i was so afrid I would offend someone. The people here never made me feel bad and are so understanding. Come on over to visit us in the Chat and also read and post with us in the S.O. Forum area. Glad you found us and I look foreword to reading more posts and getting to know you better. Oh By The way is your husband, partner a member here at Susan's?

Smiles,
Peggiann

[togetherwecan]

hey Jess, good to have you here at Susan's. It's a great place for so many reasons.
I too am an SO - however we are not married.

[Jellyjessy]

Hi Girls,

Thank you very much so welcoming me so warmly. Peggiann, I got your message but for some reason I cant't respond to it, but I would love to exchange emails with you, I have so many questions so i almost dont know where to begin....

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Please email me if you have the time!

Anyone else who would like to email or chat can use this email as well

Have a nice day!






*TWC edited out personal email address. Anyone wishing to email with Jess, pm her your email.

[Trinity]

Hi, Jessy!

Welcome to the funhouse!  You can contact me as needed.  I was married for 11 years before I "came out of the closet", and my wife tried to accept it.  Now, she and I are splitting up.

I hope that things work out for you two.  Losing your SO from her side does not make it easier, but you shouldn't stay around to avoid her pain.  Stay if you choose to, but go if you need to.  My wife sticking around actually made things worse with her comments and daily insults, so this route I'm taking will be extremely difficult AND hard, but it'll be worth it.

My best wishes to the two of you!

[Peggiann]

Ther is a certain # of post you must have made before you can send Personal messages. But I did email you.

Smiles,
Peggiann

[Robyn]

Bless you for being there, Jessy.  We'll help the best we can.

I am the wife on an FTM and also a postop MTF.

How can we help?

Robyn

[Dennis]

Hi Jessy, welcome to the board. In addition to the email resources you've just gained, feel free to post here as well. We're a friendly bunch and we don't bite new people. Just have a look at the rules to make sure and, within the rules, anything is ok.

Dennis

[Melissa]

Welcome jellyjessy,

I am both an SO and a transitioning MTF.  My girlfriend, Rashelle, had her surgery last September and now I'm prepping for mine next March.  If you need somebody to talk to, I'm here.  As for sending PMs, you need to have at least 15 posts.

[HelenW]

Welcome, Jessy!

I came out to my wife more than a year and a half ago.  We are still together and are struggling through the issues.  If I can answer any questions you may have, I'll be glad to do so.

I'm pleased that you've found us and am happy to make your acquaintance.

hugs & smiles
helen

[Suzy]

Hi, Jessy!

Welcome to Susan's.  There are a number of SO's here, as you have already discovered.  You have found a compassionate family.  Glad you are hooked up with some of these great people.

Again, welcome!

Kristi

[Donna]

Hi Jessy, I wish my wife had had your courage to stick it out and try to understand what we as TS's are going through. I wish you luck and courage.
A Friend Donna